06/17/2026
The "Me vs. You" Trap: Why your relationship feels like a constant negotiation.
Be honest: Have you ever felt like a disagreement with your spouse was less about finding a solution and more about who was going to "win" or "give in"? 🙋♂️🙋♀️
For years, that’s exactly how I thought relationships worked. It was me and another person. If things went sideways, it was a battle of wills: Do we do it my way, or do we do it your way?
But treating a marriage like a two-entity game is a massive trap. It naturally turns you into adversaries.
On the podcast today, we are breaking open Chapter 18: The Little Things Are The Big Things, and we are introducing the ultimate relationship cheat code:
The Third Entity. Your marriage isn't just a connection between two individuals; it is an independent team that requires its own maintenance, fuel, and investment.
When you reframe your relationship to be Me, You, and Us, everything changes:
👉 You stop arguing over who does more laundry and start focusing on clearing the team's mental load.
👉 You stop tracking individual stats and start focusing on winning the championship.
👉 You move out of exhausting "repair mode" and into smooth-sailing "maintenance mode."
When both players sacrifice the individual ego to serve the third entity, the combined energy becomes an UNSTOPPABLE force.
How about you?
Does your relationship ever fall into that "Me vs. You" adversarial loop?
How do you think shifting your focus to the "Third Entity" would change your next disagreement?
Let’s talk below. 👇
Catch the full episode on your favorite platform today! (Iink in the comments!)🎙️