09/10/2026
I made a conscious decision to stop scrolling in 2017. Well… mostly. Every once in a while, I still find myself thinking, Ohhh, Facebook. Good one. You got me. 😂
But somewhere along the way, I stopped picking up my phone just to distract myself or fill a few empty minutes. It wasn't a grand declaration or some statement about the evils of social media. I just started noticing how I felt when I was constantly taking in everyone else's thoughts, advice, opinions, lives, and ways of doing things.
And honestly? Stopping was probably more defining than I realized it would be.
I noticed so much changed afterward.
It's not that I don't scroll because I don’t think there is anything valuable out there. There's a lot of great content out there, but what you have to wade through to find it, just felt stressful.
As you can probably imagine, as the owner of a yoga studio, my feed is filled with wellness content. And the wellness industry can be a particularly noisy place.
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SO. MUCH. NOISE.
And, perhaps most exhausting of all: MY way is the way.
There are quick fixes. Before-and-afters. Promises of transformation. Experts contradicting other experts. A constant stream of people telling us what we need to fix, what we're doing wrong, what we haven't discovered yet, and what will finally change everything.
It can be toxic—not because there is anything inherently wrong with any one modality, teacher, practice, or approach, but because of the messaging that so often surrounds them.
If you're not doing this, you must not care enough about your health. You must not be committed enough to your healing. You must be doing something wrong.
There can be so much certainty, criticism, and subtle shame woven into the wellness world—so much pressure to get it right, follow the rules, and find the person who supposedly has the answer.
And suddenly, what was meant to support our well-being can leave us feeling more disconnected from ourselves than when we started—looking everywhere else for the answer instead of learning how to listen for our own.
And this is where I think it is important to understand the difference between judgment and discernment.
Judgment says, that is wrong. Discernment says, this may be right for someone else, but is it right for me?
Judgment closes the door. Discernment listens.
Judgment needs everyone to agree. Discernment understands that the path is not one-size-fits-all.
Something may be deeply healing for one person and completely unhelpful for another. A practice may be exactly what you need in one season of your life—and not at all what you need in the next. Something you are not ready for today may become essential to your healing years from now.
This doesn't mean the thing itself is good or bad.
It means that healing asks something more of us than simply following the loudest voice in the room.
It asks us to learn how to listen.
Your feed can absolutely introduce you to a new way of healing. A new teacher, a new practice, a new perspective might arrive at exactly the right moment and open a door you didn't even know was there.
But if you are choosing your path simply because everyone is doing it, or that person you really admire says it's THE WAY, there is a good chance you will miss the work that is actually calling you.
And if we stay with something that doesn't feel right—or something you simply aren't ready for yet—because someone or something convinced you that this is what healing is supposed to look like, you may find yourself moving further away from yourself rather than closer.
The path back to ourselves requires discernment. And discernment, I think, may be one of our greatest superpowers.
Alignment isn't about finding the one perfect way to live, heal, move, eat, pray, practice, or become whole. Alignment is the ongoing practice of asking: Does this feel true for me? Does this meet me where I am right now? Is this helping me TODAY to move toward the life I actually want to live?
And perhaps most importantly: What do I need now? Not forever. Now. Because the thing you need next may be completely different from the thing that carried you here.
And that brings us beautifully into the New Moon in Virgo next week.
After all of the eclipses, all of the revelations, all of the things that may have come to the surface whether we were ready for them or not, Virgo is ready to get to work.
Okay, it came up. It's here. Now how do we feel it, integrate it, make peace with it?
Virgo's medicine isn't about frantically fixing everything that appears to be broken. (That may be a Virgo tendency, but not her medicine).
It's about paying attention. Sorting. Observing. Getting honest about what is in alignment and what isn't. And then using our discernment to choose what might actually support the healing that is needed.
Not what worked for your friend. Not what everyone online is doing. Not what someone promised would change your life in 30 days.
But asking, what does this need? And then, perhaps later, when something else rises to the surface, asking again: What does this need?
There's no formula for healing. Alignment is created, moment by moment, choice by choice, through our willingness to listen closely enough to recognize what is ours.
So, in my classes leading up to this New Moon, we're going to get a little head start on this lunation.
We're going to invite in practices that help us cultivate discernment. We're going to loosen our grip on judgement and activate inner attunement.
This is where the reset begins.
What, right now, would bring me into greater alignment with the life I am here to live?
And then trusting ourselves enough to listen for the answer. And finding the courage to follow the guidance.
Love you! See you on the mat!
Joy
