09/11/2026
๐๐ผ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ฑ๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐?
๐๐ง ๐ข๐๐ฎ๐๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐๐ง ๐ฆ๐ช๐๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ ๐๐จโฆ
๐๐ผ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ป ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น ๐๐ฎ๐ณ๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐ป๐ผ๐๐ด๐ต ๐๐ผ ๐๐ฒ๐น๐น ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐ถ๐ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ป๐?
One of my athletes emailed me after eating significantly over plan. She almost didnโt log it. Almost didnโt tell me. She felt embarrassed, ashamed, and like she had โfailed.โ
My response was not:
๐ซ โDo more cardio.โ
๐ซ โCut your food tomorrow.โ
๐ซ โWhy couldnโt you just stick to the plan?โ
๐ซ โYou need more discipline.โ
Because that is not coaching.
We talked about hunger. Stress. Comfort eating. The brainโs drive for survival and reward. We talked about how deeply ingrained food behaviors can become over yearsโฆand how guilt and shame usually make those patterns worse, not better.
We also talked about neuroplasticity.
Every time you can slow down, notice the urge, get curious about what is actually happening, and make a different choiceโฆyou are practicing a new pattern.
Itโs not that different from building muscle.
One repetition doesnโt change your body.
Neither does one different decision change your brain.
But repetition after repetition after repetition does.
And before any of that can happen, an athlete has to feel safe enough to be HONEST.
That is why I care so much about creating a coaching relationship where my athletes can tell me the messy stuff too.
Because if your coach only knows about the days you were โperfect,โ they arenโt actually coaching the whole athlete.
Real coaching is not just macros, cardio, training programs, and cheering you on show-day.
Itโs helping an athlete understand WHY theyโre struggling, removing shame from the conversation, and giving them the tools to respond differently the next time.
That is how I choose to coach.
And yesโฆsometimes the hardest check-ins are actually the most important ones.
