10/02/2026
The intimacy that it is to be in contact with oneself.
There is an intimacy to the experience of honest self-relating that is generally not accessed by many peoples’ typical relating to oneself.
I can reference back to 5 years ago, 10 years ago, 15 years ago, when my relating with self was much more, my identity with my identity.
From the vantage point of identity, there is only so much depth we can access.
Access to more of ourselves and to more depth, below identity and/or as witness-observer of ourselves, is an experience that takes time and practice to develop. There is a fitness to the development of true, honest, authentic self-relationship.
We only see what we see from where we’ve seen.
A practice that invites us deeper widens the aperture of WHAT we can see inside ourselves.
And this practice builds on itself.
Growth, development, expansion — it isnt a singular episodic experience. It’s a string of beads, a trail of stones, a thread of pearls.
I remember when my contact with me was identity with identity. It was a spiraly experience to be IN identity with identity. I’d spend so much time there but it felt like I was never really getting anywhere.
Because I actually wasn’t.
Now, the feeling of being with me is an experience of relief .. an experience of energization.
It feels motivating and creates enthusiasm.
It feels powerful, hopeful, exciting, optimistic.
And once it begins to become a more familiar place that we can reference with curiosity, wonder and pleasure, it can begin to feel like we have really come home.
That’s where it is for me — truly home inside myself. A safe haven. A relished feast. A rapturous enigma. A colorful enlivening abode.
I am me and all me. I love it here.
I believe that the development of honest self-relationship restores us to the place we were always supposed to be: to our native, original trust of self —
Where the organism doesn’t hesitate or question itself.
It just knows and flows.
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