Pratidana Wellness Coaching

09/05/2026

There is a difference between choosing yourself and being selfish.

Being selfish says: My needs matter and yours don’t.

Choosing yourself says: Your needs matter, but mine do too.

Choosing yourself isn’t about taking from other people to get what you want. It’s about knowing your limits without giving all of yourself away.

There is nothing loving about giving so much of yourself away that eventually there is barely any YOU left.

You can care about someone else’s feelings without making them more important than your own.

You can love someone and still say no.

You can consider someone else’s needs without abandoning yours.

You can disappoint someone and still be a good person.

Choosing yourself doesn’t mean you stop caring about other people. It means you stop leaving yourself out of the equation.

It’s okay to choose yourself, even if it disappoints others.

Love,
Melanie

09/03/2026

Here is my recent newsletter. I’m writing for women who know something isn’t right in their relationship but feel stuck between “I can’t keep living like this” and “I don’t want to give up on love.”

Decentering romantic relationships doesn’t mean giving up on love. It means building a life you love and then choosing who gets to be part of it ❤️

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Emily in Paris

08/30/2026

If you’re feeling trapped in an unhealthy or unsatisfying partnership and your partner is conflict avoidant (distracts, distorts, avoids, redirects like a magician …) you’re likely in a very confusing situation. 1+1 does not = 2 in this reality.

When this happens, we can resort to unconscious and maladaptive strategies to cope (alcohol, doom scrolling, hiding, isolating, blaming ourselves to try to fix it …)

If you can relate, send me a DM or join Girl Talk. Link in my Bio.

08/27/2026

To all the people-pleasing, self-abandoning women out there, here is what I wish I knew and believed (that you probably already instinctively know):

I’m a 47-year-old therapist and self-leadership coach for women.

What I wish I believed about people pleasing and self-abandonment in romantic relationships 15-25 years ago (that would have saved me a LOT of pain and heartache ❤️‍🩹):

✓ I already knew the answer. I was just too scared to act on it.

✓ I have a part. Other people have a part. I’m not responsible for doing their part.

✓ It’s okay to say “no, thank you,” even if others don’t like it.

✓ I don’t need to prove myself to be understood. Some people will misunderstand me anyway.

✓ Keeping the peace isn’t peaceful if I’m betraying myself to do it.

✓ Disappointing someone doesn’t always mean I’ve done something wrong.

✓ I am not obligated to make up for the love someone didn’t receive as a child.

✓ I don’t need everyone to agree with my choices in order to trust myself.

✓ I don’t need to abandon my myself when his hurt, defensiveness, or blame takes the focus off what I need.

❤️‍🩹🫶🏽

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08/24/2026

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08/23/2026

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