11/26/2025
Modern problems require modern solutions.
Have you ever avoided doing something you absolutely love with your horses because your brain kept sabotaging you?
Let me tell you about these £17 butt cheek pads and how they're part of me creating what will work for me and my horses instead of fighting against what doesn't.
I've been on this frustrating journey lately - one where I'm passionately searching for ways to make life better with my horses, but instead finding myself stuck in a loop of ADD forgetfulness that's ruining the very activities that bring me joy.
I notice that I absolutely adore watching horses engage in scent work, their noses twitching with concentration, their minds lighting up as they solve the puzzles I create for them and the change in their body after each session.
There's something profoundly satisfying about seeing them tap into those ancient instincts, working with purpose and intelligence.
But here's where my human brain starts working against me. I've been going through towels like they're disposable - forgetting to pick them up, ruining the carefully placed scent markers that my horses have been learning to recognise.
I feel this excitement about going to o scutwork that is quickly dashed by disappointment and failure when I realise I've messed up again and don't have towels.
The towels are ruined, the scent work doesn't get done, and another opportunity for meaningful connection with my horses gets postponed.
I observe that this pattern has led to something I never expected - I've been subconsciously avoiding scent work altogether.
The activity that once brought me so much excitement and complements The SHIIFT Method so well now fills me with a sense of overwhelm.
The old voice - "You are useless, can't do anything right, don't deserve anything nice" threatens to arise and if it gets a foot in the door it affects every area of my life and business, and suddenly I'm finding excuses to avoid everything (especially that pattern I have been working on hard on defying for so long).
I wonder if any of you have experienced this?
That moment when your love for something gets overshadowed by a practical challenge that seems insurmountable?
I imagine you might know that feeling of wanting so badly to connect with your horse, but finding yourself blocked by something that feels so fixable, yet somehow isn't.
So there I was, innocently searching online for solutions to make our scent work sessions happen, a smooth silicon pad that will not ruin if it is left out after a session - more organised, less prone to human error.
I'll be honest - I laughed out loud. Of all the things in the world I expected to find while searching for horse training solutions, silicon butt pads were not top of my list.
But as I sat there chuckling at the absurdity, something shifted in my thinking. I felt this unexpected lightness, this moment of pure ridiculousness that broke through my frustration.
I notice that these silly, unexpected butt cheek pads have somehow become my motivation. Every time I see them, I'm reminded that sometimes the best solutions aren't the most logical ones.
Sometimes what we really need is a good laugh, a moment of absurdity that reminds us not to take ourselves so seriously. I feel this renewed excitement about getting back to scent work, not because I solved my towel problem perfectly, but because I found something that makes me smile.
I'm curious about how many of you have had similar experiences? It certainly reminded me of that time I searched "bitch name ge****ls" and was presented with only be******ty websites and no anatomy!!
Times when you were searching for a serious solution to a horse-related problem, only to find something completely unexpected that actually helped - or just made you laugh, lighten up and create space for the solution to appear.
I wonder if the humor itself is part of the healing process - that moment when we stop trying to be perfect horse trainers and just become humans having a funny experience with our animals.
I value these moments of imperfection and laughter. I believe they strengthen our bonds with our horses in ways that perfect technique never could.
When we allow ourselves to be flawed, forgetful, sometimes ridiculous humans, we create space for more authentic connections with our animals.
They don't care about our perfect scent work setups - they care about our presence, our energy, our willingness to show up and try again.
I feel hopeful knowing that my pseudo butt cheek pads will be there every day, reminding me that progress doesn't have to look pretty to be real.
They're my silly cheerleaders, my absurd motivators, my unexpected teachers in embracing imperfection.
I imagine my horse won't care that my scent pads were almost involved pads meant for someone's rear end - he'll just be happy we're playing our scent games again.
I would love to hear your stories of unexpected solutions and funny moments that helped you reconnect with your horse work. What ridiculous purchases or absurd situations have actually helped you move past training blocks?
I'm genuinely interested in collecting these tales of imperfect progress, because I suspect we all need more reminders that it's okay to be humans making our way through this beautiful, sometimes messy journey with horses.
I notice that writing about this already makes me want to gather my scent materials (the ones I haven't ruined yet) and set up a game for my horse, not wait for the pads to arrive.
The butt cheek pads are sitting in my amazon cart, a silent testament to the fact that sometimes the universe answers our prayers in the most delightfully weird ways possible and a question - could these make ba****ck riding more pleasant for my horses because I have some super pointy butt bones!! Haha.
I'm grateful for this reminder that healing our relationship with activities we've avoided doesn't always require serious solutions. Sometimes it requires a good laugh at ourselves, a moment of absurdity, and the willingness to embrace whatever weirdness helps us show up for our horses again.
So here's to the unexpected motivators in our lives - the butt cheek pads, the mistaken purchases, the ridiculous moments that break through our frustration and remind us that joy doesn't have to look perfect to be real.
I wonder what unexpected discoveries are waiting for each of us as we continue this journey of learning, growing, and occasionally laughing at ourselves alongside our wonderful horses.