02/23/2022
I let that wild child to run my business! And it's so much FUN!
🙋♂️Do you allow yourself to do your business your way?
Have you ever stopped yourself from taking action on a new idea because your logic said you shouldn’t do it?😔
Or you’ve heard other more successful coaches or mentors say “do it X way” and so you didn’t trust that your way is good enough?
I get that…
I’ve been doing that for too long. Knowing myself, knowing how many ideas I have and how many new things I like to start (and not finish)...
I was constantly stopping myself from taking action on the new things… it got me quite miserable.
The last few months of 2021 were very challenging for me. Challenging because I was struggling to find the motivation to do the work. I wasn’t doing what I planned. I only attended the calls and sessions scheduled already…
I even had a serious conversation with myself where I asked myself “do I still want to do that?”.
I’ve lost my mojo.
And I was seriously worried.
My partner noticed that I’d lost my mojo too… It was really visible.
I could not get anything done.
It was so hard to get me even in front of my laptop… I was just going to the fridge and snacking instead of working. Eating my emotions away…
There was no motivation, no excitement whatsoever.
Day after day I was struggling to do what I planned. Productivity courses and books helped for a day or two or didn’t help at all…
And I was getting back to the same point over and over again…
Why can I not do what I planned?
What’s wrong with me?
Oh, yes, my inner chatter was very judgemental. I was getting annoyed with myself. As for how long can you just wander around the house instead of doing the work?
If I was my own boss at that time, I would sack myself!
Working with a coach, working with a therapist… meditating… running a lot… being in nature… self-compassion, writing, reflecting….
I was trying a lot.
Taking holidays, another time off, another day off…
Have you ever felt this way, like it seems that nothing can help you? I’ve had no hope.
Fast forward to this year and MY MOJO IS BACK!!!!!
I’m on fire!!! I work like crazy! I can’t stop! I love it. And I deliver such powerful sessions, I love them more and my clients seem to be happier! One-to-one sessions, group coaching, mentoring, workshops…
My clients get so much better results, every single day I hear from someone who works with me about their progress, about their new client, another sales call booked, another person who bought their course, another person who signed up to their workshop…
I wake up in the morning and I’m excited about the day ahead. I even got my financial spreadsheets up to date which I always dreaded before.
I’m so focused, so productive! On Fire! In the flow! And full of energy!
But what changed?
How did I manage to fix that, I wonder? How did I manage to get my mojo back?
I think there is a few factors, not just one, but the one that seems the most significant is that I allowed myself to follow my crazy impulses with new ideas and be more spontaneous.
It feels a bit like I allowed the child within me to run my business. And as a result, not only that child is super happy but it impacts everyone around and creates such amazing results!
We all know, it’s not what we do, it’s how we do it that matters. I would even say it’s how we feel when we do it.
When that child within you feels like is being shouted at for their new crazy bursts of spontaneity, he or she will get angry or will stop responding to you, stop following your instructions. (read: you will not do what you planned).
It’s important that you honour all sides of yourself. Especially the creative side.
One of the amazing members of Successful Coaches Club once said during our mastermind “Creativity that isn’t expressed will destroy you” and I believe if you keep killing the new ideas all the time they will start damaging you from within. They will be fighting with you like this angry child. And then the child within you will stop cooperating with you as it’s not being listened to.
So coming back to what I changed this year, I allowed myself to go ahead with some ideas that didn’t seem logical to go ahead with but I felt inspired to (like three new podcasts that I'm launching😁.)
➡️I allowed myself to follow my heart more and head less. I decided to prioritise the children’s side of my business (I help teenagers to deal with anger) and I can already see how much more excited I am working in and on my business. Even all the boring tasks became easier and nicer. Just because I do more of what I love.
➡️Another thing that I’ve done more is collaborations😄 Working with other coaches, therapists and other people that inspire me a lot.
Working with, coworking with and hanging around with those that are having a similar vision makes it a lot more exciting.
➡️All the inner work. There is so much crap that we carry from childhood and from our life’s experiences that sometimes create a distorted view of the world. I continue to recreate my own view and ditch the beliefs and views that are not serving me.
➡️Meditation. That’s another thing. I’ve been meditating since 2015, but recently really consistently. It’s been nearly three months of starting a day with 20 minutes of meditation every single day. In the last few weeks, I even added mid-day meditation and sometimes one more at the very end of the day. It helps me to be fully grounded, present and recognise quicker what I really want.
➡️Acceptance and self-compassion. One of the meditations was actually on the topic of self-compassion. Instead of getting angry with myself for not following the plan, I’ve found a way to love myself how I am and give myself compassion, especially on the days when I don’t perform at my best.
➡️There were also holidays, more sleep, more time in nature, lots of running in nature… and for you, it might be something else. Tap into your wisdom and check-in with yourself what it is that you need.
So much shifted for me. I’m loving my business so much more. All sides of it. In the process, I redesigned Successful Coaches Club, refreshed the structures, improved the systems in my business. And I feel so much gratitude for my business. It’s amazing!
So, if you are at the point where you’re lacking the motivation to get things done, know that it will pass. Know that there is hope. It might be that you need one of these things that I pointed out.
Let me know in the comments what are you going to try or do more of to bring your MOJO back.
Or book a call if you tried everything already, I know I can help you.
