Awaken with Aly - Neuropsychology-informed Coaching

27/08/2026

Almost everyone I know has hurt their relationships simply due to texting. Texting is not relating.

I'm currently leading my online 'Human Being Community' through a module on "relationality and radical responsibility".

I've been deep in my own study of these topics over the last year - largely because some of my own relationships kinda blew up during a prolonged period of ill health and emotional distress. I did not handle things well, and the fall out from that period of time left painful scars.

Whilst I am not "to blame" for what unfolded, I am definitely responsible for my lack of relationality and capacity during that time. So my latest personal goal is to develop relational mastery and much greater nervous system capacity in order to weather relational storms with more grace, humour and presence.

I lead my group from a place of total candour about my own mistakes, shadows and messy humanity, and we all learn along side each other as equals. I actively discourage any pedastalisation. I'm an imperfect being on the path, welcoming other imperfect beings on the path.

Come check us out. You can watch the first 3 recordings for free (link in bio).

26/08/2026

In case you didn't know, I run a truly awesome bi-weekly container called The Human Being Community - which is chock full of amazing heart-warriors all choosing to do the hard work of becoming more conscious, more authentic, more expressed, more radically responsible for their own flaws and failings, more creative, and more HUMAN!

I love these people. They are my tribe. They enrich my life.

Last week someone shared about having had a beautiful new experience of being able to STAY in connection during a challenging conversation, and how a whole new depth of intimacy was unlocked, as a direct result of us doing this work together.

This is what's possible when we choose to become radically responsible for our own experience - instead of offloading it onto someone else.

Nothing thrills me more than seeing my peeps expand and evolve in this way.

I invite you to join us if your called to this work. You won't find better people to do it with. 😁

(Link in bio to join The Human being Community. 50% Scholarship discounts available for those in financial need)

25/08/2026

"I met Aly for the first time at Wonderland in Thailand during the pandemic. It was a really tough time for me as I was dealing with a personal, emotional and physical crisis, going through a lot of anxiety and discomfort in my body and mind. Attending her meditations classes was like a balm for my soul, and she teaches a variety of methods of meditation that makes it available for everyone.

Aly has a unique talent to guide others through her warm and compassionate presence, and her extraordinary communication skills that really help you to go deep and immerse yourself in a meditative state. I found peace inside myself.

Five years later I chose to join Aly’s container, the Human Being Community. Being a member of this community is an amazing experience. Not only having the opportunity to receive and dive into the teachings about how mind and emotions works that Aly shares with us, but also about the wounds that shape our inner and outer world.

I’ve experienced real transformations through the exercises, the inquiry and community sharing that Aly so beautifully and honestly holds for us all.

I would recommend anyone that has a true interest to ‘know thyself’ to work with Aly. I’m uncovering all the innocent falsehoods that are in my way through this amazing and often challenging experience of participating in Aly’s Human Being container.

I have rediscovered the true, free and loving essence that I am and we all are!"

Thank you for this beautiful testimonial ! I love having you my group and deeply appreciate everything you bring to the work and the community! 🤍✨

19/08/2026

The brain is much better at identifying threats and avoiding unwanted states than it is at spontaneously generating a clear picture of a desired future.

So when I ask, “What do you want?” the brain often answers from the problem: “I don’t want to feel anxious and overwhelmed. I don’t want to people-please. I don’t want to be stuck.”

“Away from” can be an important first step. But eventually, you need to stop staring at the dumpster fire behind you, turn around, and decide where the hell you actually WANT to go.

I can help you. Your life WILL improve if you decide to work with me.

And when our interactions are over, your world will be a better place than when you began.

I’m so confident about that, that I will guarantee it. If your life does not improve, I will give you your money back. So what have you got to lose?

18/08/2026

Why you shouldn’t shame yourself for your triggers.

A trigger isn't evidence that you've failed, and it certainly isn't a character flaw.

Your brain can detect patterns, associations and potential threats incredibly quickly, often before you're consciously aware of what you've perceived.

When I say "the mind generates the experience", I'm not talking about conscious thought. I'm talking about the entire perceptual and predictive machinery of mind. Conscious thought is actually just one small part of the mind's activity.

Your brain can register something, interpret it, connect it with previous learning and generate a physiological response before any conscious thought appears.

So it often feels like your body reacts before your mind has a chance to respond.
We don't experience “the trigger” directly. We experience our organism's response to what it has perceived and interpreted as significant.

So shaming yourself for having an automatic response makes no sense. You need to get curious about it. Because once you notice the reaction, you have something you didn't have a moment before: Awareness.

And awareness creates the possibility of responding differently.

Compassion first. Curiosity second. Change becomes possible from there.

18/08/2026

What you call “who I am” is actually a *process*, not a thing.

“Who I am” is a mix of inherited beliefs, unconscious conditioning, biases and assumptions you may never have thought to question.

So the person you’ve become was never really your choice. It’s largely just programming.

And until you have the courage to examine what shaped you, and question whether any of it is actually true, you will organise your life around surviving and compensating.

Rather than CREATING.

If you’re ready to become the CREATOR you were meant to be, book a 1:1 session and experience my proprietary Mind Mirror method, or join The Human Being Community — my affordable live group coaching for people ready to stop living on autopilot.

Link in bio.

06/08/2026

This substack essay is dedicated to the memory of my beloved teacher Dr Carolyn Elliot.

And Why "Finding Yourself" is the Wrong Goal

03/08/2026

Most of humanity's suffering begins with our resistance to reality.

When we're lost in the movie playing in our heads, replaying the past, rehearsing the future, judging, fearing, defending, we disconnect from what's actually here. And That disconnection fuels anxiety, conflict, greed, division and the endless search for control.

Presence interrupts the cycle.

When we come back to presence, we experience life is unfolding. Our breath is breathing itself. Our heart is beating without our permission. Intelligence is moving through everything, including us.

From that place, we think more clearly, react less, create more, and connect more deeply with ourselves and each other.

Presence isn't just a personal practice. It benefits the collective by stopping delusion in its tracks. Perhaps it's one of the most radical solutions we have.

27/07/2026

Is the sunny weather making you feel happy, or is your brain constructing an experience of “happy” in response to the weather?

Neuroscience increasingly shows that perception isn't a passive recording of reality.

Your brain is constantly interpreting sensory information through the lens of prediction, memory, context and prior experience.

Which is why the same rainy afternoon can feel miserable to one person and magical to another. It's why particular circumstances cannot ever produce a 100% reliable experience.

Your experience of the same thing shifts when your thinking and perception shifts.

The event is real - this is not about gaslighting ourselves with the notion that "everything is in your mind". But the *experience* of the event is constructed by the brain.

And when my clients deeply understand this distinction in an experiential way, it has profound implications for how they understand their emotions, stress and wellbeing.