31/05/2026
Took a while but got it done before the end of May 😅😋. Photos from last week May 24, my actual birthday was May 20.
A very belated birthday post.
I grew up moving a lot as an expat / third culture kid, and Bangkok is the longest I’ve ever lived anywhere in one stretch.
I've always been comfortable with adapting to new places. But adapting to a place and building community aren't the same thing.
Especially in a city like Bangkok, where people are constantly arriving, leaving, and starting over.
Over the past few years, I've realized that community is what turns a place into home.
Not in the “huge friend group” sense, but in a quieter way: meaningful conversations, people to spend time with, and connections that grow stronger over time.
I’ve also had birthday blues for as long as I can remember, so birthdays have always carried a weird mix of emotions for me.
This year, I decided to do something I’d never done before and host a birthday like this. I invited almost everyone I know in Bangkok. Not one friend group, because I don’t really have one. More like individual people from different parts of my life who I’ve connected with over the years and genuinely wanted to stay in touch with more.
I don't think I realized how many connections I'd built over the years until I saw everyone there.
A few years ago, after some difficult friendship fallouts and struggles with social anxiety, I remember questioning whether I’d be able to build meaningful community here at all. Not because I didn’t belong in Bangkok, but because building community as an adult takes intention, especially in a city where people are constantly coming and going.
So this birthday wasn’t really about having a big party. It was more about creating space for connection. For people to meet, reconnect, mingle, and spend time together.
I know one gathering doesn’t magically create community overnight. And I still prefer smaller groups and one-on-one conversations most of the time. But this felt like a reminder that community often grows slowly through small moments, repeated effort, reconnecting, inviting people in, and continuing to show up.