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09/06/2026

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Do you have a mom like Mama Wells?

10/05/2026

Some thoughts on Mother’s Day. You don’t know what you don’t know 🫶🏼

Did your mother help you or make your birth experience harder?

25/11/2025

Support actual small businesses this holiday season!

15/05/2025

I recently started YouTube channel answering the most common questions I get about healing from narcissistic parents. Check it out:

Welcome to Rea Life With Marie—where I share real talk on healing, parenthood, Asian culture, pop culture, politics, and self-growth. No topic is off-limits! Let’s break cycles, gain insight, and thrive together. Subscribe for thought-provoking discussions and fresh perspectives!

06/11/2023

New Podcast Alert! 🎧

'Curiosity Unveiled' is your invitation to explore the wonders of the human experience. Join me on a journey of personal growth and radical objectivity. We celebrate the beauty of embracing curiosity, challenging assumptions, and igniting your thirst for knowledge.

This podcast is for survivors of narcissistic abuse, and anyone who's been told to be quiet, to not ask questions and to not be seen. It is an environment where all questions are allowed🌋

With every episode, I'll strive to provide you with insightful conversations, captivating stories, and thought-provoking discussions. It's a voyage into the heart of life's mysteries, where we embrace the transformative potential of intellectual curiosity. Are you prepared to embark on this adventure of exploration and self-discovery? Join my community of like-minded individuals who appreciate the value of open-minded inquiry. Let's satisfy our intellectual hunger together and celebrate the joy of unveiling the beauty that surrounds us.

New episodes are now available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, and wherever you listen to podcasts. Link in bio.

21/03/2023

As human beings, we have a natural tendency to take on responsibility for things that are not our fault. Maybe we feel guilty for not meeting someone's expectations, or we blame ourselves when something goes wrong.

But here's the thing: when someone cares about you, they never want you to feel guilty for things that are not your responsibility. That's not how healthy relationships work.

Unfortunately, there are people in this world who take advantage of our tendency to take on blame. These people are abusers, and their tactics can be insidious. They might make you feel guilty for things you had no control over, or they might manipulate you into thinking that everything that goes wrong is your fault. This behavior is toxic and harmful, and it is never okay.

So today, I want to remind you that you are not responsible for the actions of others. You are not to blame for someone else's bad behavior, and you do not have to accept guilt that does not belong to you. If someone is making you feel guilty for things you're not responsible for, that is a red flag. It's a sign that something is wrong, and that you need to take a step back and reassess the relationship.

Let's support each other in recognizing when someone is manipulating us into feeling guilty, and let's stand up against that behavior. We all deserve to be in relationships that are built on trust, respect, and mutual understanding. And we can't have those things if we're constantly being made to feel guilty for things that are not our fault. So let's hold ourselves and each other to a higher standard, and let's create a world where abuse has no place.

Want to learn more about healing from narcissistic abuse? DM me the word "FREEDOM."

30/12/2022

What if your husband doesn’t actually need you to be his parent?⠀
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What if you could just treat him like an adult that you partner with in life?⠀
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How would that change the way you communicate with him?⠀
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Your husband doesn’t need you to nag him.⠀
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Your husband doesn’t need you to be his maid.⠀

And he definitely does not need you to be his mother, or remind him of her.
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Reminder: Your husband lived on his own before he met you, which means he knows how to do a lot of the things you wish he would do more of.⠀
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So if he knows how to do those things… maybe the reason why is because he’s avoiding criticism?⠀
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Maybe it’s because you say you want support and he wants to but history has taught him to not bother anymore.

I'm looking for a select group of women who are ready to accelerate their healing. If you are a married woman who comes from narcissistic parents, DM the word READY to apply to work with me.

29/12/2022

The way you and your partner argue may have become your normal, but it doesn't necessarily mean it's healthy and that this is the way your fights have to be forever!

What was normal for me in my relationships was a lot of conflict where I would end up feeling angry, alone, and unloved.

These feelings led me to react in ways I hated. The blaming, criticizing, passive aggressiveness and even talking over my partner.

It's like I completely forgot how to be respectful when I had BIG feelings.

I hated that about myself and couldn't bring myself to use the communication tools I learned.

It seemed like my emotions were out to get me.

But now, I've learned that's not the case at all!

I just needed to understand what my emotions were telling me and pause to do the inner work.

Not just the mind based work, but the body based work too.

Every time I got upset, my nervous system was dysregulated and that's when our old relationship sabotaging patterns come out to play.

So there IS something you can do to support yourself.

Listen to your mind AND body and heal the parts of you that feel the need to act out in arguments with your spouse.

This is what we'll be diving into inside of my upcoming program, The Marriage Healing Accelerator.

Together, we'll be doing the inner work to help you heal your wounds caused by narcissistic abuse, understand your patterns, and learn somatic tools to support your nervous system so you don't feel the need to overpower your spouse.

This program will help you argue BETTER so you can experience less drama and more connection!

DM me "READY" to learn more❤️

29/12/2022

Even if you had me in your ear during a fight with your husband, it still wouldn't create lasting change.

Here's the tea..

It’s all about the energy, the vibe you bring to the fight. If you're not being intentional and curious in how you communicate with your husband, no amount of talking will change things.

When you're intentional and curious about what's really going on, you show up with more confidence, presence, calmness and understanding.

Are you ready to save your marriage? DM "READY" to learn more.