09/05/2021
๐๐ผ๐น๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ป ๐ป๐๐ด๐ด๐ฒ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ณ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฒ+ ๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด
Becoming a coach means taking a different route for everyone. For me it has been a 6+ year-long journey which included amazing experiences in three different countries:
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๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ด-๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ญ: ๐๐๐ง๐ฃ ๐ฃ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ด๐ฟ๐ฎ๐บ @ ๐๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ป๐ถ๐ผ๐ป Romania (132 training hours, 117 coaching sessions with clients, 10 mentoring hours, two oral exams and a written exam ending in the ICF ACC certification);
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๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ด: ๐๐ผ๐ด๐ป๐ถ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ฒ๐ต๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐น ๐๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฃ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ด๐ฟ๐ฎ๐บ @ ๐๐๐๐๐ Romania (360-hour program - 60 live training hours, 120 practice hours, 120 individual study hours, 60 coaching sessions with clients, one written exam ending in the national ANC certification);
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๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฒ: ๐๐ฒ๐๐ผ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ง๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด - ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐๐ฒ๐น๐น๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ @ ๐ข๐น๐ฑ๐ฒ ๐ฉ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ต๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐๐ป๐ฑ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป The Netherlands (7 intensive days of applied coaching through the constellations method);
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๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฑ: ๐ฃ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ ๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ง๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด @ ๐ข๐น๐ฑ๐ฒ ๐ฉ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ต๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐๐ป๐ฑ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป The Netherlands(7 intensive days as an assistant in the training team);
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๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฐ: ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ง๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด - ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ผ๐ป๐ฎ๐น ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐น๐ผ๐ฝ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป๐ @ ๐ข๐น๐ฑ๐ฒ ๐ฉ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ต๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐๐ป๐ฑ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ปThe Netherlands (7 training days including mixed methods for non-formal education and coaching);
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๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฐ: ๐ฃ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ง๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด @ ๐๐ด๐๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ธ ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐๐ต ๐๐๐๐ผ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป Hungary (7 intensive training days including several practice coaching sessions daily, most of them video recorded).
โ๐ข๐ป๐ด๐ผ๐ถ๐ป๐ด (๐๐ถ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฌ): ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ญ๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ๐ด๐ถ๐ฐ ๐๐ป๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ง๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด @ ๐ฅ๐ผ๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ถ๐ป๐ ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฒ๐ (blended online synchronous and asynchronous learning of Tony Robbins' coaching methods).
Throughout these years, I have learned valuable lessons about what coaching really means and what it takes to truly help someone. And in this process I also unlearned old ways of seeing the world and thinking, which were not serving me anymore.
สแดสแด แดสแด ๊ฑแดแดแด ษขแดสแด
แดษด ษดแดษขษขแดแด๊ฑ แดสแดแด ษช แดกแดแดสแด
สษชแดแด แดแด แดสสสแดแด
ส แดแด ษขแดแด:
๐ก๐๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ถ๐ ๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐บ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฒ๐
๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ. It doesn't matter what the coach knows about your field, it matters what the coach can help you do with what you bring into the session. Domain expertise can bring preconceived notions about how things should be done, a false impression of understanding the client's issue before truly listening, coaching the problem instead of the person and an eagerness to provide solutions - all of which go against the spirit of coaching.
๐ก ๐๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ถ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐ creating a safe space for attaining awareness, for naming the previously unnamed, for seeing things with new eyes, for finding internal resources and venturing into the future with a clear vision and plan. The coach is not your parent, therapist or teacher, but an equal partner who mirrors you back to yourself so you can finally see what you've been looking for.
๐ก ๐๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ป๐ผ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ ๐ฑ๐ผ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐บ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ฎ๐น ๐๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด. While it is essential for a coach to believe at their core in every person's potential and to be accepting and supportive throughout the entire coaching relationship, a good coach will never throw shallow motivational quotes at you or wave pom pons like a cheerleader. Unlike in sports coaching, in executive and life coaching we do not shout at people to get them hyped up for the game :) The issue of motivation is dealt with more deeply - by exploring personal beliefs, values, needs and goals. Once the person is clear about these, motivation flows naturally, without the need for cheap artifice.
๐ก ๐ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต ๐๐ถ๐น๐น ๐ป๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฝ๐ถ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ฝ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ผ๐ฟ (๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ป๐/๐ฒ๐บ๐ฝ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ) ๐๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐๐ฎ๐ฑ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐๐ฎ๐ด๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐น๐ถ๐ฒ๐ป๐ (๐ฒ๐บ๐ฝ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ). I was shocked to see lots of vitriol on this topic from people making this assumption. So let me say it loud and clear: ๐ฃ๐ค, ๐ฌ๐ - ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐พ๐-๐๐๐๐ง๐๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐ค๐๐๐๐๐จ ๐ฌ๐๐ค ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐๐๐ง๐๐๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐จ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐๐ฉ๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐พ๐ ๐พ๐ค๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐๐ฉ๐๐๐๐จ ๐๐จ ๐๐ฃ ๐๐จ๐จ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐๐ก ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ข๐๐ข๐๐๐ง๐จ ๐ค๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐จ ๐ค๐ง๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ฏ๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ - ๐ฌ๐๐ก๐ก ๐ฃ๐๐ซ๐๐ง ๐ฌ๐ค๐ง๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ฃ๐จ๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐ก๐๐๐ฃ๐ฉ'๐จ ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐๐จ๐ฉ๐จ, ๐ง๐๐๐๐ง๐๐ก๐๐จ๐จ ๐ค๐ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐ง ๐๐ค๐จ๐จ/๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ก๐ค๐ฎ๐๐ง/๐จ๐ฅ๐ค๐ฃ๐จ๐ค๐ง ๐๐ค๐๐จ ๐ค๐ง ๐จ๐๐ฎ๐จ:
โ๏ธA professional coach will never try to influence or manipulate the client to make one decision or another.
โ๏ธA professional coach will keep clear agreements with all parties involved regarding the disclosure of information and will never disclose anything the client shares without the client's agreement (unless obliged by the law, for example in the case of hearing a crime confession).
โ๏ธA professional coach will partner with the client and support them throughout their transformation process, even when the client's decisions ultimately affect the sponsor (for example, the client decides the job is not for them and resolves to quit).
There are surely many other takeaways to discuss, but currently these seem key to bringing down the most common misconceptions. Regardless of whether you are a coach yourself or have experienced coaching, I would love to hear your insights.
๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฆ๐ด ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ซ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐บ ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ช๐ฌ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ณ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ฅ?
