15/04/2026
I’ve felt a switch flick in me recently. It happened when I realised I had started to create my own limitations again. I thought I was being “realistic” about what I could manage, when I had actually fallen into an old pattern of trying to avoid failure, rather than being curious about what I could achieve.
I started asking what could happen if I simply believed I could do it, and then started taking actions designed to help reaffirm this belief over and over again even before proof started to emerge.
Even though it seems like it’s your schedule, your work or family responsibilities, your genetics, or past proof of failure, that’s capping your goals. In my experience and from observation, it’s not, it’s your belief that it is. Realising this is both confronting and freeing at the same time.
If you’ve followed me for a while you’ll know I don’t tell anyone how they should or shouldn’t want to look, but I also can’t deny there aren’t deeper patterns or pressures at work beneath surface that influence a clients “why” or “body goals”.
So often I meet women who think they’re setting “realistic” goals when what’s available to them with the right structure and guidance is so much bigger.
People might read this and think going to the gym isn’t that deep. But it is. Peoples training habits and their beliefs and barriers surrounding it are a big ol’ mirror to much deeper inner conflicts - nervous system regulation issues, self-concept struggles, and social pressures.
The gym is actually the perfect place to intentionally stretch yourself, to challenge the ideas you have about yourself, to craft a new identity, to evolve.
If you weren’t afraid of failing, or standing out, or losing social standing in circles you silently feel like you’re outgrowing anyway, what would your goals look like then?