18/04/2023
The passengers on your bus - As humans, we each have our own personal "bus" that we ride on - our thoughts and emotions. Sometimes, these passengers are easy to deal with, and we feel in control. However, at other times, our bus can become crowded with difficult passengers - such as self-doubt, fear, anxiety, and frustration. It's natural to feel uncomfortable with these passengers, but it's essential to remember that they are just that - passengers on our bus (Hayes et al., 1999).
We must learn to acknowledge these uncomfortable passengers without allowing them to drive the bus. By building these psychological skills, we can still carry these passengers while staying focused on the task at hand. From these learning experiences, we can develop the skills of psychological flexibility.
Coaches also play a vital role in helping athletes navigate their buses. Normalising uncomfortable passengers is crucial - it's okay to feel self-doubt or fear sometimes, and it doesn't mean you're a bad athlete. A good coach will validate and empathise with these uncomfortable passengers and help athletes learn how to manage them so they don't hinder success.
Remember, you are the driver of your bus, and you have the power to choose its direction. Take some time to reflect on these passengers and acknowledge how you react to this mental noise. This is the first step to building psychological skills which help you thrive. So it's not about getting rid of the uncomfortable passengers but about learning how to manage them so they don't hold you back. Keep driving forward and stay present!
Ask yourself -
in what way am I reacting to these passengers?
What things lead up to the noise?
What physical sensations do I encounter?
How could I react to the noise that would help me to accept these passengers?
From here, we can develop some mini-performance routines
e.g. Instead of shouting at the referee, I feel anger and move my attention to my breath! By the way, these routines will take time conscious training to grow!
Hayes, S. C., Strosahl, K. D., & Wilson, K. G. (1999). *Acceptance and commitment
therapy: An experiential approach to behaviour change.* New York: Guilford Press.