08/12/2023
Here’s to chasing sunrises with you ☀️
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Today I’m going to deviate from the usual health and fitness field and get a little personal.
It hasn’t been easy navigating dating life for the past 16 years. For anyone who knows me personally you already know the ups, downs, broken hearts both mine and others and just hopelessness and loneliness.
I’m not a relationship expert but here’s some of things that were important to me in finding and trusting someone for life. A list of my green flags if you will. 💚
1. Shared values and beliefs on life - from faith to how we want to raise a family even down to a shared awe of nature and appreciation of beauty. Someone I can trust will be there for me and for hopefully our future children.
2. An ability to support one another in our careers because my chosen career path is anything but linear and many don’t get it.
3. Seeing loyalty and trust in action not just by words.
4. Hardworking and reliable.
5. Kind, compassionate and generous.
6. An appreciation of the arts.
7. Someone I can laugh with, have fun with and be reminded to take a chill pill. Essentially, just a friend.
8. Attraction
9. Someone who I feel safe, calm and at peace with.
10. Someone fit, strong and with a sense of adventure ✈️
I was not looking for the ‘perfect man’ and I didn’t have a list of criteria. I was just waiting for someone who truely understood me, appreciated me and was on a similar path in life and who I could enjoy life with.
It was beautifully unexpected to fall so deeply in love with Kauri, and I perhaps never would have if I didn’t really see him for all of who he is and allow our relationship to grow because of our age gap and because we had to date long distance.
I’m truely very happy and excited!
I hope this can encourage anyone out there who is struggling while being single or dating that it’s worth the wait to find someone who is right for you.
You’re not fussy, there’s nothing wrong with you, you just haven’t met that person yet and that’s ok. There’s something beautiful in every season of life. Focus on that and trust in Gods timing ❤️