16/08/2025
Well today, 16th August 2025 marks 3 years that Kevs been gone. This isnāt a date I like to dwell on or celebrate, we do that on his birthdayā¦.
So rather than focus on his departure, I just wanted to touch on what our soldier left behind for us.
I still get messages and phone calls through RONIN with stories and reminders of Kevs teachings and his instructionals, one in particular was from a coach teaching children and they just werenāgetting the hang of some of the submissions so this coach used one of Kevs methods and used his videos and he said they āgot itā straight away to his relief and delight! That right there is what Kev did it for and if he can live on in a Dojo on the other side of the world or in a backyard somewhere in South Auckland heād be happy.
Kev wasnāt just about MMA of course and he left with us SO much wisdom and insightā¦. Some things he and I talked about i am only resonating with nowā¦ and I āget itā Kev!! I understand.
Kev had a way of connecting with people on a whole different levelā¦ so many of you already know this, he had something perhaps Intuitive which is why those who knew him loved himā¦ he gave people the ability to be EXACTLY who they are without judgment or prejudice so there was always a sense of freedom in his company and I loved that too ā¤ļøš
Weāve come a long way in 3 years, I know people say not to look back just keep going forward but I do look back because sometimes I feel weāre at a stand still, itās only in reflecting Iām assured of our journey that we keep on ākeeping onā..,, Kane has gone from my baby to a heavyweightā¦ heās becoming a man now and weāve had a few laughs over how Kev would have handled some of his situationsā¦ no doubt with humour and long walks n talks ā¤ļø
Aside from many changes to my hair I think Iām still the same meā¦ that raw pain does subside enough to start to live life againā¦itās always there but I have more control over when it rises.
I miss Kev every single day and when my head is clear or Iām gardening or cleaning my car my thoughts always drift to him and past conversations, funny memories, words of adviceā¦ heās always with me.
I feel blessed to have gotten to here, with support from Kevs family, my family, close friends and supporters of RONIN itās been a fu # hard road, I wouldānt wish this on anyone, but itās vital we look back with positive, happy memories for Kev. He deserves to be remembered for all those good things he put into our lives so thatās what weāre doing.
We love you Kevvy, every single day you are loved, you are remembered and you are celebrated. You could not possibly ever be forgottenā¦
Resting together;
Kevin Hay
Tony Renata
Dave Beaver
Monty Bhana
May they all rest in love and peace ā¤ļø
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