Women Palava Blog

05/08/2026

What Should You Write About?

One of the biggest questions aspiring authors ask is, "What should I write about?"
The truth is, you don't have to write about everything. You only need to write about what you know, what you've lived, and what can genuinely help someone else.

A great book sits at the intersection of your knowledge, your experience, and a real need in the marketplace.

Ask yourself these questions:

1. What problems do people constantly ask me to help them solve?

2. What lessons has life taught me that could save someone years of struggle?

3. What expertise have I developed through my career, business, ministry, or personal journey?

4. What message do I feel deeply burdened to share with the world?

5. What transformation can my book help readers achieve?

Remember, people don't just buy books because they contain information. They buy books because they are looking for solutions, clarity, inspiration, hope, or a new perspective.

Your story may be ordinary to you, but it could be life-changing for someone else.
If your book can educate, inspire, empower, solve a problem, or move someone closer to their desired outcome, then you're already holding a valuable idea.

Don't chase trends simply because they seem profitable. Instead, write where your passion meets purpose and where your message meets people's needs. That is where impact and influence are born and profitability often follows.

The world doesn't need another copy of someone else's voice.

It needs the message that only you can write.

Read that again. 👆

So, what should you write about?

Write about what you know. Write about what you've overcome. Write about what you've learnt. Write about what can change someone's life.

Your book could be the answer someone has been praying for. Don't keep it locked inside you.

Go ahead and read THE GIFT OF THIRTY-FIVE, my latest book for more insights.

That's a practical example of this book writing conversation.

Thank you - Don't mention it!

Marylynda Obioha a.k.a GBM

Book Consultant & Editor | Author | Ghostwriter | Reading Accountability Partner | Women & Girls Empowerment Strategist 💯

06/07/2026

God is my writing my story and is in my story.

Happy birthday to my best girl.

Matthew 5:13-14 is my portion this new year.

Welcome to the rich Aunty Vibes Year. 😀

God bless your new year, girl! 🩷🙏

❤️

04/07/2026

Mature Single to Younger Single, 😀

As you prepare your heart for marriage, pay close attention to his patterns, not just his promises.

Anyone can make beautiful promises. Anyone can say the right words. Anyone can paint a picture of a wonderful future. But words are easy. Character is revealed in consistent actions.

Patterns rarely lie.

They reveal how a person handles conflict, treats people, keeps commitments, manages money, communicates, and responds when things don't go their way. They expose habits that have been formed over time and give you a glimpse of the future you're walking into.

Don't ignore repeated red flags because you're hoping marriage will change him. Marriage doesn't create or change character; it simply reveals more of what is already there.

Look for consistency, not perfection. Every human being has flaws, but a person who is intentional about growth will show it through consistent actions, humility, accountability, and a willingness to change.

Don't let sweet words silence your discernment. Ask God for wisdom to see beyond emotions and recognize what is truly before you.

A man whose actions consistently match his words is far safer than a man whose promises are louder than his lifestyle.

Remain patient. Remain discerning. The right decision today can save you years of regret tomorrow.

Remain Sorted. 👌🤍

01/07/2026

26/06/2026

25/06/2026

"I Want to Write a Book, But I Don't Know Where to Start."

If that's you, you're not alone.

One of the biggest mistakes aspiring authors make is waiting until they have everything figured out before they begin.

The truth is, every published author started with a blank page.

Here's a simple 5-step roadmap to help you get started:

📘Step 1: Decide Why You Want to Write the Book. Is it to share your story, build your brand, teach others, or leave a legacy? Your reason will keep you motivated when writing gets tough.

📘 Step 2: Choose One Clear Topic. Don't try to write about everything. Focus on one message, one problem, or one transformation you want your readers to experience.

📘 Step 3: Create a Simple Outline. Write down your main chapters or key points. Think of it as creating a map before starting a journey.

📘Step 4: Write Consistently. You don't need to write an entire chapter in one sitting. Start with 300–500 words a day. Progress beats perfection.

📘 Step 5: Get Guidance and Accountability. Many people don't fail because they can't write; they fail because they try to do everything alone. Having support can make the journey easier and faster.

Remember: Your first draft doesn't have to be perfect. It just has to be written.

Tell me in the comments: What's stopping you from starting your book?

👇👇👇

21/11/2025

Dear Young Woman,

In today's Friday Palava with bigMary.

I want to remind you that this temptation to curse Nigeria is real, but I beg you not to be a part of it at all, and that's also part of the plan. For the countrymen and women to continue to curse a blessed nation. You can't curse a blessed nation, no matter what. Go and read your scriptures well.

See eeeehn, Nigeria is so blessed, and why we are facing this high level of challenge is because of how God has greatly blessed us. This nation will fulfil prophecies; it's just a matter of time. Mark my words.

I just want to encourage the young Nigerian woman out there to please not get discouraged with Nigeria, that you begin to abuse the president or any Nigerian political or church leader. It's not your duty to curse them. You can remind them of their obligations, but please don't curse.

Your duty is this: come with me as I write.

These people were not your problem, are not your problem and will never be your problem. Your real enemy is the person around you who knows the truth and has refused to embrace it, especially now that it is very glaring to us.

Don't be tempted to think that the Yoruba, Igbo, Hausa, or one tribe like that is our problem. After all, that was what they wanted us to believe: that one particular tribe in Nigeria is the problem.
I don't want you to fall for that lie. Just yesterday, you saw what happened to a particular tribe man like that, how they humiliated him and his tribesmen, and they made us believe again that nobody is coming to save us, indirectly painting it to us that even the foreign aid might also not be of help to us.

That's a BIG LIE!

That's to show you that our real help will not come as a man but will come through a man. That's how God works. Real help actually comes from the Lord who made the heavens and the earth. Yes, it comes through men, don't forget. Read that again!

After all these have been said and done, it is to make us arise and begin to do what they had always expected us to do as planned.
To fight physically, a particular tribe tried to do it in Nigeria and what became of them. More chaos and now, how far?

Please, as a woman, you have better equipment to fight, as seen in Ephesians 6:10-18. Go back to my post of 20/11/2025. Don't think that spirituality doesn't work again. Don't allow your fellow woman to discourage you from praying or to stop praying completely.

My point is this: prayer still works. Don't allow anybody to water down prayer around you because of what is happening. See Sis., we need to stop praying as usual, begin to ask that the lord God Almighty grant us the divine wisdom and the strategies on how to tackle this challenge that has come to swallow us.

Scripture says, women will receive their dead back to life and that includes Nigeria. This nation might look dead now, but it will surely come back to life. She is depending on you and I, the womb carriers to do that. Please, Nigerian young women, arise and let God hear our cry once again. Listen up, no prayer is fruitless!

The battle line has been drawn a long time ago. They won't stop until we arise both spiritually and physically. Emphasis on physically BUT of course, we cannot afford to fight foolishly like we did on the 20th of October, 2020!

New strategy for the new Nigeria.

Say this, we receive a new strategy for the new Nigeria... Amen!
Please, share this post or tell somebody what I said in today's post.
Thank you!

I have a lot to say but I can't say it here.

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Bye for now.

Your Sincerely,

Marylynda Obioha

From a sister in love
With young women's
Spiritual and physical growth.
Kingdom Influencer and Women's Empowerment Strategist!

14/11/2025

I AM TIRED OF THE STORY OF THE COUPLE TRENDING! Read to the end to know why!
First of all, are you not tired?

If you are, please come with me, let´s look into this palava wey dey my table today. It´s another Friday Palava With BigMary.

Just a few years ago, an online in-law went so far as to say that Min. Mercy Chinwo´s first child resembled Min. Nath Bassey, and the whole of social media exploded. Hmmmm, Nigeria and cruise, sha!

What was never expected to be done by MM1 and her husband was done, and they trended again for doing the right thing. But wetin happen at last? An apology was tendered because the online in-law couldn´t afford the money wey them for use bail their careless words.

And fast forward to now, I am seeing that a lot of people never still get a level of social media sen-se or to at least learn from the lesson that was taught the last time. To think that gospel artists are not humans that you can cyberbully them and not meet them in court was something else.

Honestly speaking, it´s because of things like this that I decided to be discreet with my life on social media. If you know me before, I dey sabi post personal stuffs, but now, na only my business brand palava I dey post wella wella and a little of my personal life gist because the way some people, especially umu nwanyi these days, have taken it upon themselves to become social media monitoring spirits abi social media supervisors, abi social media class captain done tire person.

The way some of you have refused to learn how to comment intelligently and mind your business is really alarming!

Please, I beg again, can we at least learn how to mind our business for once, because what is this again oooh? Why are some people gradually making the social media space so toxic for their fellow users?

Please, stop catching cruise in the comment sections of people´s personal lives kwanu? It really doesn´t make sense at all anymore. It is because of people like you that the government will keep thinking of regulating or banning some kind social Apps for this country.

In all your scrolling for this space, learn to walka pass. You must not comment on every post you see online because the day it will put you in trouble. No talk say bigMary no tell you.

Abeg, we can do better. Thank you!

Lastly, this is why I got tired of their story. The stories are no more aligning, selfishness has taken over, and again, the online in-laws will not allow them to settle amicably. Their comments are beginning to add more fire to the palava arising. If not for social media, how these trending couple wan take expose their gbegeh wey dem get inside marriage. Before na the love of money cause am, another person say na the girl family cause am. Now, them talk say na four different age be the problem. Tomorrow, we go soon hear say, na their village people be the cause of the problem. Are you guys really kidding me because what is type s**t again?

Oya Ngwanu oooh, type s.h.i.t!

It is well.

Marylynda Obioha

Women's Empowerment Strategist Women Palava Blog // Women Palava Network - WOPAN

07/11/2025

Dear Young Woman,

Please help me ask this insecure man how his marriage has turned out to be a place of competition and a press conference. Who told him that a woman or his wife is his challenge in life?
If he had always been secure in himself BEFORE marriage, would he have ever taught that his wife is his competitor? Kai, what an annoying mindset from this man!

Please, help me also tell him that a woman who is BELOW him doesn't mean he can't be disrespected. Tell him that respect is reciprocal. Make it sound into his ears that respect has never been one-sided. Even if you are a grandfather and you go ahead to disrespect a little girl-child, that little girl will turn around to insult you one day if she can no longer bear it again.

Please, just tell him that he should stop spreading the wrong message on social media because normally, they are both light shining in their own way. Just like the sun and the moon! You can never see them competing with themselves. Tell him that the woman is also a light and should be allowed to shine in her calling. The truth he does not know is that when he allows her to shine, she projects him, the man, the head, at the city gate and to the ends of the earth!

If more men were trained with the right marriage motive, this particular man would not be here advising his fellow men to do something that has resulted into exactly what is trending online today. When it comes to the topic of marriage, the internet will just be on fire, making marriage more difficult for those who want to genuinely get married in life! I pray that those in marriage chaos find peace in their marriage in Jesus' name.

Today's Hashtag Friday Palava with BigMary will not allow me call names at all but all I can say is this, If you are truly the LEADER in that marriage, why not handle matters well and make her understand that you don't wash your pants and boxers outside since you are the older one here, but since we don't know how you both have been doing your marriage behind closed doors, how do you want us to fully get involved in this matter, the way you are going?

My prayer is that we shall not lose this little girl-child that you want to silence because you don't want her to outshine you. When you do your part well as a man, that woman will give you back what you have given to her in multiple ways. Never forget that a woman is naturally a multiplier. Allow her to shine and give her peace and see if you will not receive shining peace press down, shaken together and running over.

Hmmmm, , may WE not experience these kinds of insecure men in Jesus name.

Oya, repeat after me.
I will marry well.
I will marry right.
I will marry peace.
I will marry once.
I will marry maturely.
I will not marry for social media validation.
Oya, run to the comment section and drop more prayers there, let's type amen with you!

Marylynda Obioha

Women's empowerment Strategist at Women Palava Network - WOPAN - WOPAN



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