03/09/2026
【Find a Coach Who Can Walk the Journey with You】
Recently, I heard about a student who was scolded by a swimming coach during class until the student cried.
Afterward, the coach said, “I was only speaking a little louder.”
But based on the reactions of other students, the issue may not have been just the volume. It may have been the tone and teaching approach at that moment, which made the student feel a great deal of pressure.
This made me think again about something important:
Is swimming instruction really just about teaching someone how to do the movements?
I don’t think so.
Especially for adult learners, learning to swim is often not just a “technical lesson” — it is also a “mental lesson.”
Some people are afraid of water. Some have swallowed water before. Some do not feel safe in deep water. Others are not lacking effort, but after failing again and again in the past, they have already started to doubt themselves.
When someone enters the water carrying nervousness and fear, and what they receive in return is blame, pressure, or a harsh tone, then what they have to fight is no longer just the water — but also their own fear.
Why does some teaching easily turn into “the more you teach, the louder you get”?
1。Coaches project their own learning experience onto the student
“I learned this way too.”
“My coach used to be even fiercer.”
“If you practise a few more times, you’ll get it.”
But just because the coach could do it does not mean the student can do it right now.
Everyone is different in age, physical condition, water confidence, learning experience, and mental state.
2。Volume is mistaken for teaching effectiveness
Speaking louder does not mean the instruction is clearer.
When a student is already nervous, a louder voice can sometimes make the body even more tense and breathing more rushed. In the end, the student may not even be able to do a movement they could previously do.
3。Ignoring each person’s level of tolerance
Some people need more direct reminders. Others need time to slowly build confidence.
What truly matters is not how the coach is used to teaching, but how the student in front of them needs to learn.
Many adults get stuck not because they are not trying hard enough
After teaching adult swimming for so many years, I have become more and more certain of this:
Many problems cannot be solved by simply saying, “Relax a little.”
Because what the student really wants to ask is:
“How do I relax?”
And it also cannot be solved by simply saying:
“Just do it, and it’ll be right!”
Because the student’s real question may be:
“But I honestly don’t know how to do it.”
If the student does not understand, then explain it in another way.
If the student cannot do it, then break the movement down into smaller parts.
If the student is afraid, deal with the fear first.
If one method does not work, try another method.
That is the true value of a coach.
So, how do you find a coach who can truly support you?
① A coach who is willing to listen to your difficulties
Not someone who rushes to tell you what you did wrong, but someone who first tries to understand where you are getting stuck.
② A coach who can see things from your perspective
Something that feels simple to the coach may feel extremely difficult to the student.
③ A coach who knows how to break movements down
They can turn abstract ideas like “relax,” “balance,” “rotate,” and “breathe” into small steps that you can actually do.
④ A coach who gives you a sense of safety
A good learning environment does not mean there is no pressure at all. It means you know that even if you make a mistake, you are still allowed to try again.
⑤ A coach who is willing to walk through the learning process with you
Sometimes, what you need is not someone who keeps pushing you to “go faster,” but someone who knows when to encourage you forward and when to let you slow down.
I have always believed this:
Swimming is not taught by shouting.
Truly good teaching helps a person who is afraid of water slowly dare to put their face into the water.
It helps a person who has always believed “I just can’t learn this” begin to realise:
Maybe I just haven’t found the method that suits me yet.
Finding the right coach is like finding a reliable support point in the water.
They will not hold on to you forever,
and they will not swim the whole journey for you.
But when you are still unsure of yourself, they stay with you,
helping you build skill, confidence, and a sense of safety step by step.
Until one day, they let go—
and that is when you realise that you already knew how to swim.