Life Coaching by Nea

11/09/2024

우리가 본래의 존재, 즉 의식 그 자체임을 기억할 때, 모든 소망은 크든 작든 하나의 창조적인 힘의 다른 표현이라는 것을 깨닫게 돼. 결국, 우리는 이미 그 힘과 하나이기 때문에, 원하는 모든 것은 우리 안에 이미 존재해. 우리의 진정한 본질을 알면, 더 이상 외부에서 무언가를 찾을 필요가 없다는 것을 알게 되지. 그저 그 소망들을 표현하고 현실로 만들 뿐이야.

= "When we remember that we are what we are, consciousness itself, we realize that every wish is a different expression of one creative force, big or small. After all, everything we want already exists in us, because we are already one with that power. When we know our true essence, we know that we no longer have to look for something from the outside. We just express those wishes and make them real."

01/04/2024

I did a thing 🥹 new website, new chapter (the 1st newsletter is going to be sent today @ 6PM CET with a free gift where I poured some of my soul into ~)
https://gardenofnea.com

click here to check out what freebie I am talking about: https://subscribepage.io/unblockyou ☻

— and this is my garden (hence the name) for self-expression. A safe space where mental health meets spirituality. Spiritual bypassing is not welcome here.Manifestation is a way to explore who you truly are and should neither sacrifice your well-being nor lead to self-abandonment. I created this w...

23/02/2024

“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.”
― C.G. Jung

30/03/2022

⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣These are parts of you deep inside that are calling you to look at them, to process them, to understand the deeper meaning, and most of all, to get to know yourself a little more. Pain is not something negative just because it's uncomfortable. Trauma is not something negative just because it feels intense. Both are opportunities to sit with yourself, to have the courage of facing them - of facing yourself. By doing so, you're stepping in your power instead of reacting to them by going into '𝘧𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘰𝘳 𝘧𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵' mode. ⠀
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It's all about creating a sacred space for your healing, for your transformation, and offering softness & compassion to yourself. This is what growing up & adulting means to me - reparenting ourselves, not being overserious, and getting caught in rules by society (which are just mirrors of the collective and therefore reflecting something about yourself back to you. But this is worth a separate post.)⠀
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This probably describes well what I learned during an Ayahuasca ceremony.
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I'm by no means a pro in this, I'm sharing what I'm practicing and integrating & definitely not in a place yet where I can offer guidance (even though that reality already exists heh). I want to be a leading example and fully embodied which requires practice, especially since this kind of transformation is super vulnerable and needs a lot of space. For doing so, I need to hold space for myself first and want to be honest with you 🖤

16/02/2022

⁣⁣this-is-a-pause-for-an-indefinite-period-post:⠀
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dear mochis, dear hipstergram,⠀
yup, I'm treating this lil account as if our community has a following of like 5 million peepz or so (well, that reality is already created, sooo 🦊)⠀
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the moment, I decided to become a coach and service provider - not 'just' a blogger/content creator didn't come from a pure place of fun & play but a fearful motivation of 'let's make this happen so that we can be safe in the future' aka having a business that supports me so that I can feel safe and independent during my uni years and after graduation. I tried so hard to pretend to already be THAT person who has it all but in the end, I was just lying to myself.⠀
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for the past year and especially the last 3-4 months I started my REAL healing (yes, you are allowed to say healing no matter how 'spiritual' you are lmao) journey starting with mama aya who got me straight into my deepest fears, a lot of repressed and suppressed stuff aka childhood trauma, shame, guilt, a LOT of discomforts - all the parts of me that I would deny and disown when I was caught in the manifestation trap (which I'm now grateful for as a part of my journey for the lessons to learn from).⠀
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in other words, I only want to be a guide (I don't like calling myself a coach anymore) and create when I can hold space for that when I have fully processed & integrated what I'm going through & what I've learned in the past couple of months when it feels aligned - I allow it to unfold on its own. no more trying to manipulate the path that my life, my higher self has already created for me. ⠀
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on monday, I had a valentine's day ceremony with myself and uncovered the core of my attachment to social media, numbers, and my business (which I will call heart project from now on, business sounds so icky). I will share more about this when I have fully processed it and it has something to do with...again, childhood trauma. {continued in the comments}

12/01/2022

⁣you probably know the quote '𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙞𝙨𝙩, 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙨' and you probably experienced this in your life. for example, you want healthy, strong & long hair but you can't seem to be okay with your hair how it is at the moment (which is only temporary & nothing is set in stone anyway). thus, you'll keep putting yourself in this state, in this energy, in this frequency - however you wanna call it.⠀
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it is all meant to be embraced - your current body, your current circumstances, your emotions (hint: there's no such things as positive or negative emotions, they're just emotions. period.) - the more you resist it, the more it'll likely to stay like that. but when you're able to recognize the message here, then it's easier to shift (and bro/sis/homie/whoever, I'm also practicing this stuff, you're not alone). accepting everything as it is as a part of the fulfillment = living in the wish fulfilled, in your ideal.⠀
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fun fact: this was the core message of my Ayahuasca retreat last year in fall along with 'yo, control is such a freakin' illusion'! ⠀
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I hope you can embrace yourself & your life as it is rn - and I believe you can do it. it's just a matter of practice and part of having a nicey dicey relationship with yourself! ☻

09/01/2022

⁣Hello from beautiful Rotterdam! I started this year with a solo-trip to a place I've never been before. Something that I did last year as well & trained my 'self-trust muscles' by doing so ☻ ༄ I achieved the most of my past posts. They were based on downloads and insights I got which I posted because I felt I 'had' to instead of digesting and practicing them first. I was not a living example of what I shared, I was pretty much still trying to get my business running - aka the traditional way of 'doing to get'. This wasn't fun at all, I felt anxious and stressed out most of the time whenever I opened social media or even thought about it. I guess I even suffered from a kind of burnout which I'm still recovering from? No wonder, last year and the years before my mindset and life were all about "do, do, do", "go, go, go" = wanting control & feeling safe - working against my nature and the opposite of flow vs what I preach now which is BEING = allow, accept, embrace (this is my motto and 'new' way/practice of going about my life).⠀
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I've been doing a lot of deconditioning along with putting into practice what I have learned from my Ayahuasca retreat at the end of October (fun fact: it was over the Halloween weekend). I'm sitting with the pain, the fears, the old stories, the pressure - the whole palette of emotions that come with transformation. In other words, I'm not who I used to be anymore - I'm shedding skins (I highly recommend same named song), like a onion peeling layers. The old way of how I lived my life or how I was going about my life doesn't make sense anymore. My old identity of 'the fixer, the doer' doesn't make sense anymore. This process is not easy and as light as it's often described. It's simple but in action it hurts, it's confusing, and it feels like dying - in fact, it is a sort of dying. Everytime we let go of something, a part of us - of the old identity dies. Awakening is also dying, as I said before, we shed layers where we let go of old, false identities and getting to know ourselves in a (often totally) complete way. This feels like being reborn when in fact we just become more 'real'.

02/01/2022

⁣It's been over 3 months since the last time I posted on here (except for the few IG stories here and then). I even prepared another post which didn't feel like a "100% yes!" to post but then I ended up with feeling inspired to write this one. I will share in another post where I have been and where I am now. I just want to stop by and say hi! 🌿⠀
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Funny enough that I feel called to post this on New Years Day. Btw, happy new year! I hope y'all had a nice start and doing well (and even if not that's okay too) 🎊!⠀
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With the (illusion of the) new year comes new year resolutions. I'm not a fan of this because for me it implies something like "having to work/to do something to get/manifest my desires" aka proving myself (that I'm worthy) and that my happiness/fulfillment/whatevs is somewhere out there and in the future. ⠀
Instead I thought about an new, refreshing approach to new year resolutions:⠀
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Instead of "𝙙𝙤𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙗𝙚𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤 𝙜𝙚𝙩" (what causes pressure, embodying old, limited identities and falling for the illusion of control), 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬?⠀
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-to trust yourself and life⠀
-to (move towards) make peace with your body & self ⠀
-to stop people pleasing & trying to fix⠀
-to give yourself the love you expect from someone else (e.g. the "manifest your SP trap")⠀
-to be gentle and patient with yourself⠀
-forgiveness⠀
-to practice responding over reacting⠀
-to have more compassion with yourself and others⠀
(aka looking behind our ego masks)⠀
-to sit with feelings, emotions & to face fears instead of running away from them⠀
-to trust & surrender instead of wanting control & stressing yourself out⠀
-to follow your heart instead of your mind⠀
-allowing & receiving and dropping desires and outcomes ≙ d-e-t-a-c-h-m-e-n-t⠀
-TO STOP TAKING YOURSELF AND LIFE SO SERIOUSLY⠀
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What do you think of these? What are your resolutions in this style? Let me know in the comments! 🌚

02/09/2021

⁣I had the honor to write another article for ⠀
I'm excited that y'all can read it now on this beautiful website! ♡⠀
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I already created a post exactly about this topic a couple of weeks ago. ⠀
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I will be offline again, and I don't know when or if I will come back. I'm going through a "the old man is dying" period, and I FEEL that. You can't bypass stuff. Staying off social media feels best to me and also for my mental health. I hope you're doing fine, and I imagine you're doing so. Take care! 🍃

19/08/2021

I originally posted this on and I want to share this here as well. ⠀
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My friend Arielle (biz partner and podcast co-host) and I went through a lot of (unconscious) stuff and this does not only benefit us but also you as we are in the process of creating something purely from our hearts ↪️ what helps us will help you as well. I found this beautiful illustration the moment I opened the app and oh boy, what a synchronicity (a word that I dropped after jumping from the usual to but now I gave it a new meaning in my journey)! I and I guess a lot of you had the misconception that you have to stay high-vibe, only feel "good" emotions in order to create heaven on earth in your human experience. But emotional state ≠ state of consciousness. You came here as a human to experience EVERYTHING including ALL emotions. Emotions are just energy in motion and nothing to be afraid of. I play a lot with changing my perspective on (specific) emotions and instead of questioning them, I see them as art. You can try this as well. When you feel an intense emotion instead of trying to avoid feeling it (just bc it feels f*cking uncomfortable) describe it, the colors, the shape, maybe the movement in your body - whatever feels good, just play with it. Seems refreshing, doesn't it? ⠀
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Again, your emotions, no matter how uncomfortable they might feel from time to time are NOTHING to be afraid of. They are lovely parts of you, just light cute lightning bugs/fireflies within your beautiful garden aka body. ⠀
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Next Monday, August 23rd we have of as a wonderful guest in our next podcast episode of "Being Free Podcast" ! Stay tuned 🖤

16/08/2021

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I feel so cute in these - so I played a lol⠀
Well, there was a time where I've basically been at war with myself (not just talking about an eating disorder). After I entered the world of manifestation, I didn't allow myself to share about this because I was afraid of repeating old stories & therefore creating stuff that's related to that. Now I make the rules and since we give meaning to ANYTHING, I decided to be share stories being authentic and vulnerable with the meaning/assumption that it will be inspiring and helpful. ⠀
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I remember being self-conscious/insecure about my body and my face shape...I thought it was too big, and I remember that one comment of a friend in my childhood triggered this when she said "you have a big head and forehead". I continued to live with that for years & it shocks me now how I embodied that state of being insecure of my physical appearance that just started with a seemingly harmless comment (and tbh I'm still in the process of fully loving and embracing it - I meet myself halfway & enjoy the journey). But one thing that I have learned is to love myself where I am now (this applies to every area) and embracing even when I feel like crap - it's all part of the process. I loved when my friend Jen from .co said that our bodies are beautiful vessels for God consciousness - thanks to them we can have this human experience full of adventures! And by loving & accepting how we look now doesn't mean it will stay like that & we just "have" to get used to it. Quite the opposite, this means embodying the version of you who already has their desired physical appearance because then you would love yourself anyway. ⠀
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But don't do it, just in hope to get something. As I said in my previous post, there's no separation between your current physical appearance and your desired one 🌱