The Bridge To Yet

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The Bridge To Yet

I am a Transformational Coach. I help people learn to be kinder to themselves and get to the other side of "yet". We would never talk to a friend that way.

We live our lives beating ourselves up, being unkind and sometimes downright cruel to ourselves.

30/07/2024

“Forgiveness is giving up all hope for a better past.” Listening to the ever amazing podcast by with Dr Fred Luskin about how forgiveness helps our physical and mental wellbeing. So super powerful. I continue to work hard on forgiving rather than making a scene or blaming others. I don’t always get it right of course but as I get more life wisdom, I know that the space between stimulus and response grows. And in the space I can work on forgiveness.

My recent experience of getting a rubbish and expensive manicure is my latest example. I was disappointed by the fact that it was rubbish and then I was angry it had cost so much but I couldn’t get back to fix it. When I eventually went back to have them removed I realised I didn’t help by cleaning immediately after, that my nails grow super fast and I could have had them fixed sooner. So do I write a negative review, complain to everyone involved, rant to all I know (guilty of that one I’m sure!)? Or do I go back, give feedback, have them removed and probably choose to not go back there? The latter served me well. Better because I didn’t need to place blame, or ruin their business by a negative review.

When I returned they fixed them, they were kind they are lovely people. And in my version of this angst ridden world, even these little things make a difference. If I can forgive them for shoddy service because they are ultimately good humans, maybe this will ripple onto bigger world issues.

The dragonfly pic I recently took in Sicily because, she is my taliswoman, whose symbolism is having the wisdom and resilience to adapt to change. She is tattooed on my body to remind me of that everyday.

19/02/2024

When I have time to myself, I will always try and fill it. I CAN sit and read a book, but I like my time to be productive. It's a lifelong learning of mine to simply BE.

So today I'm choosing to be creative instead of productive. This quite possibly won't win me any art prizes, or international recognition, but it allows my mind to focus on detail, to choose what's next, to see what goes with what and determine what doesn't fit. It allows space for those recurrent thoughts to subside and it brings other creative ideas to the fore.

It won't win prizes, it's nothing about anything, simply some squiggly lines that fill up a bigger squiggle. Oddly for me, the squiggles on the page slow down the squiggles in the mind.

20/12/2023

It's time for another Goddess Promotion! This time, it's more bragging than promotion. Bragging that I have the incredible joy of having this unbelievably talented beautiful soul in my inner circle.
pilgrim is a coach and psychotherapist, based anywhere you want to work with her. I've known Karin for 14 years. We met not long after we both moved to the UK. We were both on different journeys from our previous lives and partly that's what made our connection so special.

Over the years our friendship has deepened more and more, I'm sure with each passing year. When I first met her I remember thinking, how can someone so young be so peaceful and together and grounded in so much kindness and compassion? And every year she builds on it.

If you or anyone you know might need a gentle nudge into therapy I recommend Karin to guide you into that space and hold your hand and your heart throughout.

I'm blessed to know such a beautiful soul and even more proud to call her my friend.

30/11/2023

My shirt says "If it costs you your peace, it's too expensive."

Being barefoot on the grass in the sun brings me peace.

Swimming in the sea brings me peace.

Reading books brings me peace.

Watching funny TikTok videos about dogs and cats brings me peace.

Sharing my world with my amazing bloke brings me peace (until he snores...).

It makes me wonder why we have to feel like we need to work so hard at times for peace. We're not surrounded by it right now, but we can make it for ourselves. By making space; by putting ourselves first, by prioritising joy. When we do that, it's utterly remarkable what happens to us.

13/11/2023

Today is World Kindness Day. It's been a thing since 1998! And even I didn't know how far back it has gone.

What does it mean? Well, it's a chance for us to be a little kinder today. To ourselves and to each other. I'm a firm believer in the concept of whatever we put into the world is what we get back (even if they're thoughts). So if we get agro because someone has taken our parking spot or because things aren't going as they planned then we'll get more back. If our ingoing premise is peace, kindness and compassion and we are doing these things authentically, we'll get more back.

See what little kindness you can do today? Here's a tip; start with yourself. 💕

01/11/2023

Goddess Promotion.

I've decided I have so many goddesses in my circle that they might just need promoting (on this teeny page with scant followers 😂).

"Forget about the rest of the week. Focus on yourself. Focus on now."

That's how she starts every class.

Antonia or Toto as I lovingly call her has kept my interest in yoga for over 10 years now. That's the longest I've committed to a particular type of exercise ever. Her classes are so incredible because she can start anyone at any level and accommodate for all the over achievers (kind of like me) who always add the extras in. I love pushing myself physically and Toto manages that with her classes every single time.

I loved the days in London when we could do in person classes and then come 2020 we went online and now living in Malta these are all I get except for the very odd occasion I can make a London class ..

There isn't enough peace, love, kindness and joy ATM so I'm sharing it via the people in my life who are radically beautiful. I obviously highly recommend her classes because as an instructor she's a dream and as a human a blissfully beautiful soul.

So enjoy her goddessness (not even in goddess pose here!) and her classes if you can!

26/10/2023

Whenever I get a recommendation from a client, I read it and have to remind myself it's about me. The irony is here that I do coach people on Imposter Syndrome! Not that I have it anymore, but when beautiful words come from beautiful people, they take my breath away.

"Sharon is an extraordinary coach. I had the pleasure of working with her over the course of two years as I took on multiple new roles. She helped me navigate and balance myriad challenges and did so with a depth of empathy, confidence and grace that have benefited me immensely. Her style is authentic, courageous and dynamic which make her a role model for good and genuine leadership. Her wise counsel and insightful questions have strengthened my leadership skills and I'll be reflecting on our conversations for years to come. She is a beautiful human and I look forward to working with her again."

10/12/2022

I was inspired recently after a very different conversation, to depict it using drawing. Then I thought, hang on, I might be good at this and then this one came up in my mind!

It's not every client that has these issues, but a lot of them are very similar.

I never cease to be amazed and impressed by the types of clients I have. They are usually, and in the main, INCREDIBLY accomplished women who simply need a little steer in a different direction. (I do also coach men, there just seems to be fewer of them in my practice)

I enjoyed expressing myself artistically for a change. Who knows, it could be another outlet!?

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14/09/2022

It has been quite some time since I've done a Bridge to Yet post! So I wanted to share my sunrise with you.

We moved to Malta 9 months ago and my soul is a little happier. Probably a lot happier! That's not to say that I was unhappy in London, but moving shifts your perspective and for that I'm grateful.

It wasn't always easy and nowhere is perfect as I like to remind myself. It brings me such joy to see the sunshine every single day. To hear my mother's native language spoken everywhere I go (and to practice speaking it badly!) to swim in the Mediterranean every day and to not live in a mould affected flat!

Most of all it gives me pause every single day to be grateful for the life I choose.

I think often of the Mary Oliver quote....."Tell me what else should I have done? Doesn't everything die at last, and too soon? Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one would and precious life?".

Live it, Mary!

17/12/2021

This is a picture of a crane lifting a boat. The crane blocks the only road in and out of our current apartment. We were headed to work from our new place today because of building works noise, when we discovered this was blocking our path and made it impossible to pass.

When I saw this, I was a bit stressed because I was already running late for a meeting and the low level noise of the builders had already raised my ire a tad.

So the only thing I could do was head back up to the noisy apartment to do my coaching work from - not ideal!

Then as I was setting up, I received an email saying my client and their entire family had just tested positive for the C-virus and he couldn't make our call.

Why am I telling you all this? Because I am feeling a bit of mastery today on an issue that's plagued me a lot in my life. Much less over the past 10 years or so, but it still pops in to test me.

The issue is anger. I've been quick to flare in my past and years of therapy have seen me get to the bottom of that, but of course things like the start of this day can still test me. So I made a choice not to react in the old way.

Instead, when igto back, I did the most uncoordinated dance moves of my life to invisible music, singing a wordless, tuneless song.

Why? Well, it's utterly ridiculous and very hard to stay mad during those antics!

And the reason I chose it is because storing negative energy like anger and bitterness in my body is no longer where I want to be.

We moved to Malta just over a week ago. It's days of ☀ and 🌊, nature and fresh air. So with the physical change, I've decided to do things differently. And this is one of them. I'm smiling now as I write this, listening to the drilling and banging next door, because I feel a bit untouchable now! I know if I don't get my headphones out soon that might all change, but for now I'm making it last.

I also decided that the universe wants me to sit with a coffee, watch the ocean and read a book. So I'll honour her graciously.

Change is not only possible, it's what we're designed for. (oh and noise cancelling headphones are gifts from the gods for sensitive little souls like moi!)

04/11/2021

A while ago I was asked to join a podcast and it's dropped!

Check out Diana Osagie and her awesome podcast, and if you're interested in my leadership mistakes and mishaps, take 15 minutes if you like!

On Spotify and some other platforms too....

Diana is proper funny and this is such an important part of leadership - to be vulnerable and share our messing up as much as our successes.

26/10/2021

Happy Tuesday or Chooseday as I like to call it sometimes.

We can choose. Not everything, but we can choose our mindset, our approach, our reactions, our responses and our emotions.

I choose to share this magnificent sunrise with all of you and I hope your choices bring you peace and happiness.

Indirizzo

Vittoria

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