07/04/2021
"An affair simply alerts us to a pre-existing condition, either a troubled relationship or a troubled person"
An affair is not an overnight event that has suddenly rocked your world. It was brewing under your watch for a long time. Now that it's aroma has caught your attention, you can finally do something about it. Blaming your partner and holding them fully responsible for an affair may seem the right way, but it's only half the truth.
It could be your troubled relationship, that you did not put much effort to remedy, maybe you were too busy to even notice the wounds of your relationship and someone else filled in the gap that was created because of your physical or psychological absence!
It could also be that you or your partner were going through something in your life and need some extra care or attention or acceptance or compassion that did not come from the other partner and that led to the entry of someone else in your life.
Talk to an expert to get your answers and the relationship back on track. Talking to your friends will only help you vent it out but not help you look at things objectively.
DM me for a 1 on 1 coaching if you are in a relationship that has a third person or if you are the other person. We all need help at some point in our life and there is no shame in accepting your problems and seeking help.