22/09/2022
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Who has noticed this�
When people perceive judgment, blame or criticism, they often see only 2 options: submit or rebel (defensiveness).
I know my wife gets defensive when I communicate from a place of judgments, blame, criticism, or some kind of make-wrong.
It's because in her world, she always tries her best to contribute to the relationship.
But sometimes I have other priorities that seem more important to me, and I donβt consider her efforts.
Weβre all different, and we all have different values and priorities.
When I try to push my priorities onto my partner, I unconsciously create a power struggle. And she tends to resist because her priorities seem more important to her.
Have you experienced this recently?