13/07/2026
對我在 feed — 中看到的青少年體育帖子以及它們教給我們的孩子的內容的反思。
本週我看到一傢俱樂部慶祝 U8、U10、U11 和 U12 球隊在海外錦標賽上贏得獎盃。這個貼文充滿了自豪感,教練們顯然很愛他們的孩子。我並不質疑背後的心意。
但我想悄悄地說一件事:我們慶祝兒童運動的方式教會了他們什麼是最重要的。
當貼文以「盃賽冠軍 ✅ U8 ✅ U10 ✅ U11」開頭時 — 我們教導 7 歲的孩子,勝利才是關鍵。
當我們說「專注的團隊,足夠的替換」—時,我們告訴那些沒有被選中的孩子,他們不夠好。
當我們設定「儘管考試,我們的球員仍然滿懷熱情地出現」—時,我們告訴家長,擾亂學校秩序就是奉獻精神。
這些都不是惡意的。這是我們繼承的系統。但挪威和日本向我們展示了不同的方式:慶祝努力。輪換小隊,讓每個人都出行。將錦標賽視為經驗,而不是結果。保持遊戲中的樂趣—尤其是在 U8。
對這些貼文的自豪感是真誠的。我只是希望看到它是圍繞著成長而不是獎杯來組織的。因為那些沒有獲勝或沒有機會旅行的孩子也應該感到自豪。而他們是我們最有可能失去的人。
A reflection on youth sports posts I see in my feed — and what they teach our children.
This week I saw a club celebrating U8, U10, U11 and U12 teams winning trophies at an overseas tournament. The post was full of pride, and the coaches clearly love their kids. I don't question the heart behind it.
But I want to name something quietly: the way we celebrate children's sport teaches them what matters.
When a post leads with "Cup Champions ✅ U8 ✅ U10 ✅ U11" — we teach 7-year-olds that winning is the point.
When we say "focused team, just enough substitutions" — we teach the children who weren't selected that they weren't good enough.
When we frame "despite exams, our players showed up with heart" — we teach parents that disrupting school is dedication.
None of this is malicious. It's the system we've inherited. But Norway and Japan show us a different way: celebrate effort. Rotate squads so everyone travels. Frame tournaments as experiences, not results. Keep the joy in the game — especially at U8.
The pride in these posts is genuine. I'd just love to see it organised around growth, not trophies. Because the children who don't win deserve to feel proud too. And they're the ones we're most at risk of losing.
