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The Smiling Coach

Certified coach helping women called to make a difference in the world but feeling too busy, tired, or overwhelmed to do so.

You’ll go from RAAAAAAA to ahhhhh, finding calm, clarity & vibrant joy, fully resourced to bring your best to every area of life

12/06/2026

The women I work with are rarely afraid of hard work.

What they're often afraid of is what they might discover if they stopped proving, fixing, managing, and carrying everything for everyone else.

Because underneath all that doing is usually a conversation they've been avoiding having with themselves.

A conversation about what they need.

What they're grieving.

What they're tolerating.

Or what they're no longer willing to carry.

The interesting thing is this:

The women I work with don't become less capable when they finally have that conversation.

They become more honest.

And from that honesty, better decisions tend to follow.

If this resonates, you don't have to figure it all out today.

Sometimes noticing is the first step.

My DMs are open if you'd like a place to start.

05/06/2026

One day, you will remember this moment,
The exhaustion and weight of a thousand expectations
Pressed upon your shoulders like great slabs of concrete.

And you will wonder, “How did I carry it all?”
But let me tell you this: You are not meant to live life on your knees,
Dragging yourself through days like treacle
Juggling demands of a world that’s impossible to keep pace with.

Here is your invitation to slow down.

What is it I really want?

You whisper. It shall be found,
Not at the end of another to-do list.
Not at the moment of another accomplishment,
But within the quiet space where wisdom lives.

And you will know as sure as your own hand
“I am enough.”

28/05/2026

I take expressions of joy very seriously.

Not performative happiness.
Not “good vibes only.”
Not forced positivity wrapped in burnout.

I mean real joy.

The kind you can feel in someone’s energy before they say a word.

The kind that shows up when someone is deeply connected to themselves, their work, and the life they’ve built.

People who are constantly exhausted, emotionally flatlined, and disconnected from pleasure don’t make powerful decisions.

They tolerate.
They camp out in procrastination.
They shrink.
They convince themselves survival is enough.

And then they wonder why their relationships feel heavy.
Why their business feels harder than it should.
Why success feels hollow instead of successful.

Joy is information. It's data that comes from your inner knowing. It tells you:
✔ what’s filling you up
✔ what’s draining
✔ what you’ve outgrown
✔ what your nervous system no longer wants to carry.

People who can still access joy while building serious things stand out from the crowd. They know how to hold power without losing themselves. And between you and me, at this point in history, for women, that’s pretty rare.

Women who can still access joy while carrying real responsibility are revolutionary. Not because joy is fragile.
Because the world rewards women for exhaustion far more than fulfillment. So when a woman can hold power, success, leadership, and aliveness at the same time?

It's flippin' kick ass.

We’ve normalized struggle so aggressively that people almost feel guilty for being deeply fulfilled.
As if peace means you’re not ambitious.
As if softness means you’re not disciplined.
As if awe and delight somehow make you less intelligent.

I believe the opposite.
I think joy is one of the highest forms of self-respect. Because it's a whacking great neon sign signalling that someone stopped building their life around survival...
and started building it around truth.

Truth is a massive disruption to the norm. It messes things up in the very best ways
The way you sell.
The way you lead.
The way you love.
The way people experience being around you.

People can feel when your life has emotional congruence. And they’re drawn to it. Not because it’s flashy.
Because it’s safe.
Certain.
Real.

I don’t trust brands that only know how to communicate pressure. I trust the ones that still have access to aliveness. To a spirit of truth. That’s authority to me.

Joy isn’t frivolous. It’s feedback.

07/05/2026

Your public success should not require private suffering.
But for many high-achieving women, it does.

You’re the one who gets things done.
The capable one.
The one people rely on.

But privately
you're constantly up in your head overthinking decisions
you avoid small tasks that feel massive or emotionally loaded
you feel “fine” but weirdly disconnected from your 'true' self
you function well, but it costs you more than it should. And you feel you can't complain because YOU built this.

Better discipline or more resilience isn't going to fix it.
It’s an internal operating system issue. And it's fixable.

One of my clients recently said:
“I have the antidote to panic now.”
Another said:
“When everyone else is losing their heads, I stay calm.”
"LIterally, I get so much more done now and get half days off, all without feeling panic stricken."

If you’re highly capable and feel a bit trapped by holding everything together… Although, onviously, smashing it (!)
Send me the word LIGHTER and we’ll have a conversation.

13/02/2026

The hardest thing to admit is not that you're full to the brim and bone tired...

It's that your life only works if you keep overriding and discounting yourself.

If you're ready to learn how to make more space for you in your life without sacrificing what you've worked so hard to create, I can help.

25/12/2025

I wish you presence over pressure.
Joy over obligation.
Delight for all your senses
The ability to honour your own needs
And trust in life

19/12/2025

There’s a particular kind of tired that shows up at Christmas.

It’s not only from work.
It’s not only because of the success of the year.

It’s from years of being the dependable one.
The capable one.
The woman who carries responsibility like it’s her calling.

People begin to expect it of you.

Especially if you grew up believing rest had to be earned and self-denial was virtuous.

I know my coaching programme The Wild Rise works.

I’ve seen some of the kindest, most generous people I’ve ever met who were unable to take a moment for themselves now able to prioritise rest, joy, creativity and they do so without feeling guilty about it.

I see them moving into deeper, more confident, more authentic leadership than ever before. They achieve more professionally and feel more supported personally. Their parenting eases and their relationships grow in intimacy.

They tell me people respond to them differently.
Honouring them and getting on board with her vision.
And she inspires courage and action in those around her because of how she shows up.

What are you going to do with your tired this Christmas?
Do you have to keep proving yourself? What do you worry will happen if you don't?
Or will you listen to the quiet knowing that something has to change?

18/12/2025

Christmas has a way of rewarding the most exhausted woman in the room.

She's the one who organises.
She hosts.
She remembers everyone’s needs.
She keeps the peace.

She smiles through it and is often praised as generous, good, selfless.

Does anyone ever ask what it costs her to do all this?

I expect if someone did she'd push the question away. Uncomfortable with the recognition. But when no-one considers her she feels overlooked and undervalued.

If you were raised to believe being “good” meant putting yourself last, Christmas can feel a mixture of blessing and duty, of expectation and sacrifice, of digging deep to give of yourself when you're already feeling tired.

I see you.

28/10/2025

Falling leaves aren't dead.

I had thought that they were.

It's a kind of tree- sneeze. For clearing out.

They are in fact the tree getting rid of what it doesn't have energy for.
They're making space so they can be intentional about their energy.

There's wisdom there. What we give our energy to matters.

I help my clients to have energy for what matters. To come home to themselves and be in their full power.

I've helped women not waste energy in;

🍂 Feeling trapped and not knowing a way out
🍂 Not having your voice heard at work/ with family
🍂 Drowning in demands but getting nowhere
🍂 Holding difficult emotions in for too long

🍂 Feeling guilty
🍂 Circular thinking and rumination
🍂 Decision fatigue
🍂 Analysis paralysis

🍂 Feel overwhelmed by Chaotic environments
🍂 having nervous systems set to high alert
🍂 Always feeling like they're having to prove themselves to others
🍂 Feeling like they've got no choice but to do what they're doing

Sneeze sneeze sneeze!

I can help you let go safely. The key is safety.
And finding the unique key to your situation that will work for you.
If it were easy to do, safely on your own you would have done it already.

This stuff is at the real pinch point of humanness. It's an utter joy to see women find their freedom.

Two options: keep ignoring how much it sucks to be left like this.

Or get help from someone who knows what they're doing that can help you release the energy drainers safely. And celebrate as you rise to new levels of growth and fruitfulness in your life.

That's what happens. You'll have clarity, joy, and renewed energy.

What are you going to do with your one life?

How are you going to support yourself differently to begin freeing yourself and letting go of your energy drainers?

Join The Wild Rise and we'll do it together

🍂

23/10/2025

Being busy doesn't equal Productivity.
Being busy doesn't equal being Valuable

Your time is a irreplaceable.

How you invest your time is how you invest your life.

Many of us have passions faaaaar beyond our capacity.

Most of us already prioritise by what we need to do.
The next step is to prioritise by what we WANT to do (desires, autonomy, value alignment )
And once we're good at implementing that, we look only at what's hitting both the need and want category and cut it intentionally in half.

Don't use that capacity on lesser value.
You've only got one life.

"Working with Joy gave me clarity, confidence, and the tools to protect my energy. I set stronger boundaries, reconnected with what truly fulfils me, and now feel more present at work and home. I’d recommend Joy in a heartbeat to any woman who is facing overwhelm and is struggling with unclear boundaries whether those are personal or professional. " Charlotte Joseph- Smith, coachee

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