Relationship Coach for Neurodivergent Couples - Helping ADHD & ADHD/nonADHD Couples Rebuild Balance, Communication & Joy - Creator of SPARK & STEADY COUPLES - Trainee Coaching Supervisor. I am trauma-informed and have lived experience of ADHD and of living with the effects of intergenerational trauma. I see the whole person including all the areas of grey where black and white do not seem possible. My ADHD passion is supporting people to totally unapologetically and fearlessly be themselves. It took me most of my life to get to that point and it gives me the greatest joy to see you unfold in a much shorter space of time. Dealing with one and not the other does not work. We think our mind rules our body but in truth it is the other way around. Our body rules our mind through our automatic responses. These are given a label. That leads to our conscious responses. So stop being so hard on yourself. You are not weak. You are not broken. You are responding to your body sensations due to previous conditioning of your responses. Right now you are in chaos. I can feel your frustration, hear your swear words, and know your ups and downs. I can hold space for your tears, for your frustrations and worries, for your anxiety, for your effing and blinding, so that you can be totally yourself, perhaps for the first time ever. Together we will go on a journey and I will be beside you all the way while you:
Figure out and deal with your executive functioning challenges
Educate yourself on ADHD, neurodivergency and neurodiversity, and the psychology of change
Undo the chaos in your head: by getting rid of limiting beliefs and childhood patterns and investigating which societal expectations to throw out of the window
Repair your being: through unmasking with joy, understanding what makes you tick, and coming into flow
Reshape your world: by finding the rhythms that allow meaning in your life, that let you thrive, that let you love who you are, designing the life you want and that works for you. We will work through all the elements:
Air - working with the mind to understand your brainwiring and to learn to think of solutions, not problems
Earth - grounding through shamanic practices, somatic exercises, and nature work
Water - learning to identify and feel your emotions and find ways to self-regulate
Fire - finding the passions that give meaning to your life. Learning what throws you into hyper focus and how to not let it burn you out. Ether - trusting your intuition and working with metaphors to enter your subconscious through Osho Zen tarot work and Shamanic Practice
And at the end, if you trust in the process and do the work, you will have grown as a person, be more aware of yourself, of your responses and the reasons for them, and more able to pause, allowing your conscious brain to catch up and be part of deciding how to respond. You will feel happier in your skin, be more understanding of the past, and will look forward to the future. Review transcript:
If you would describe this journey to someone else, this whole coaching journey, what would you say to them? All right, and so before I came and saw you, I was, it's almost like a before and after has started to develop because of the significance of the work that I've kind of been able to go through. When this coaching was presented as a possibility, the sort of goal and the outcomes that I thought that I wanted were to be able to design a work slow in my professional day that would mean that I would be able to complete the work that I had to do in the time that I had without it becoming an overwhelming situation that then impacted my mental health. And actually that's where I was at at that point. I started the coaching during a period of essentially, I think you can call it a breakdown, you can call it an awakening. And it quickly became clear that what I had thought that I wanted from the coaching wasn't something that was actually what I needed and what I needed was to completely reevaluate who I was and what I was good at and what I shouldn't be putting myself through and what was going to harm me. And that seemed huge and intangible. And I was really clear that you know this wasn't going to be, Anita wasn't going to do this for me, but what I'm amazed at is that Anita has walked actually side by side me through it and she's handed me tools and she's helped me look the tools that I've got and then she's these new things have come in and what that meant for me is this enormous mental shift into this position of congruence where actually I've been able to identify what's harming me, I'm not going to do this anymore. Angela - coaching journey - transcript - December 2023
