30/08/2025
Dear Parent,
I see you right now. Every part of you—your grief, your sadness, your regret, your hurt. I feel the heaviness you carry, the way it wraps around you like a storm, making it hard to move, hard to see the light.
I see the grief you carry for the loss of connection in your family—not just the ending, but the way it ended, with conflict, separation, and pain. I know how much you wanted unity for your child, even if togetherness isn’t possible. You wanted a family container that held love, safety, and care. You wanted your child’s world to feel whole, even in the absence of togetherness.
I see the fear in your heart, the worry for your child, and the harm they’re absorbing—the very harm you fought so hard to protect them from. I see the sorrow that comes from feeling you couldn’t provide the family structure you knew was best.
And yet, I also see your strength. The fierce love, the wisdom, the conscious heart that fights not out of anger but out of care. I see the medicine you are making from this pain—the way your experience allows you to be the bridge others needed, to prevent hurt, and to bring healing where it’s needed most.
You are not failing. Even when it feels that way. You are loving, you are learning, and you are creating safety and healing in the only ways you can. Even when the days feel heavy, even when giving up seems tempting, your presence, your heart, and your courage are enough—even when hope feels crushed.
It’s okay to grieve. It’s okay to feel the weight, however hard it may feel. And remember: the love you carry for your child, the wisdom you hold, and the courage you show every day—these are your gifts, not just to them, but to the world, to others who are silently going through the same struggles and need to know they are not alone.
Thank you for feeling deeply. Thank you for showing up. And thank you for holding your own heart with care, even in the storms.
I know this is what a good parent does. Even if the reality isn’t what you wanted, you are still showing up as the parent you hoped to be.
Love Lucy 💓
