06/09/2026
🥋 A short story about consent…
I was teaching Black Belt Club last night, and the students were doing body sparring.
The way we teach sparring here at The Factory is that before you begin, you and your partner agree on the level of contact you’re both comfortable with. You communicate, you listen, and you respect each other’s boundaries.
About 20 minutes into the session, I reminded everyone that every time they change partners, they need to agree the level of contact again.
I also explained something really important…just because you agreed to something 20 minutes ago doesn’t mean you can’t change your mind now.
Maybe you’ve had enough. Maybe you’re tired. Maybe you simply don’t feel comfortable with that level of contact anymore.
You can change your mind.
You can say, “No contact now, please,” and the other person respects that…that’s the important part…No questions…No pressure…No making someone feel bad for changing their mind 🥋
One of the students came over to me after class and said, “Lucy, that’s a really good way to teach consent!”
Absolutely, I thought, and how amazing that the takeaway from a sparring session was consent around their own bodies (we’re doing something right, I thought!) ❤️
Consent isn’t something children should only hear about when they’re older. We can teach it naturally from a young age, through boundaries, communication, respect and understanding that you are allowed to change your mind.
This is exactly why martial arts is about so much more than learning how to kick and punch, and why our classes aim to deliver a well-rounded programme that supports the child as a whole.
Yes, we teach physical skills, of course we do, but we’re also teaching young people how to communicate clearly, how to listen to others, how to respect boundaries, how to speak up when something doesn’t feel right and how to understand that another person’s “no” should always be respected without judgement and that’s what they should expect for themselves too.
Those are skills they can take far beyond the mats, and to me, that’s one of the most valuable things we can teach🥋❤️