17/05/2026
The older I get, the more I realise horses tell us far more about nervous systems than we ever give them credit for, especially the sensitive ones.
For years I described horses as: āSharp, hot, spooky, reactive, naughty, dramatic, over-sensitive etcāā¦
Now I catch myself wondering, āWhat actually happened to make you feel like you need to protect yourself like that?ā Because horses with big reactions are very rarely enjoying themselves, and honestly⦠neither are riders.
One particular horse of mine changed this massively for me. He arrived looking beautiful on the outside⦠but underneath was carrying so much tension, hypervigilance and stored fear that it completely changed the way I started looking at behaviour. He made me realise that horses arenāt ādifficultā⦠they just donāt feel safe yet.
I think one of the biggest things horses have taught me over the last few years is that tension doesnāt always look dramatic.
Sometimes it looks like holding breath, bracing, over-reacting, shutting down, spooking, freezing, rushing, or trying to control absolutely everything around you.
In horses, and for humans too.
I used to think confidence was about becoming tougher.
Now I think maybe real confidence is when neither nervous system feels like it has to fight so hard anymore. š¤