20/06/2026
Towards the end of last year, I wasn’t in a great place mentally.
Nothing terrible had happened, but I felt like my mind was constantly searching for what was wrong. I’d wake up feeling overwhelmed, little things would irritate me, and every day seemed to become another list of problems to solve.
The truth is, I’m naturally a bit of a pessimist. My wife, on the other hand, is the complete opposite. She’s one of those wonderfully annoying people who can find a silver lining in almost anything. 😂 I’d like to think we balance each other out.
Anyway, for me, looking for the positives has never come naturally. It’s something I’ve had to practise, and if I’m completely honest, I still have to practise it most days.
Part of that is just how our brains are wired. We all have what’s called a negativity bias, meaning our brains naturally pay more attention to potential problems because, somewhere along the way, they learned it was a good way to keep us safe.
Over the last few months though, I’ve realised that what I choose to pay attention to has a huge impact on how I experience my day.
If I wake up and immediately start thinking about everything I’ve got to do, everything that’s gone wrong, or everything that could go wrong… my brain happily goes off collecting more evidence that life is stressful.
But when I deliberately slow down and notice the good things, a client making progress, a walk with Maggie, a decent cup of coffee, or even a bit of sunshine (which, let’s be honest, is worth celebrating in Scotland… there goes my pessimistic side again! 😂) I realise those moments were there all along. I just wasn’t giving them much attention.
Don’t get me wrong… some days still feel hard.
This isn’t about pretending life is perfect or forcing yourself to be positive when things are genuinely sh*te.
It’s about recognising that your brain will usually find more of whatever it’s looking for.
So today, instead of asking yourself, “What’s going to go wrong?”
Try asking…
“What’s one good thing that’s already happened today that I might have overlooked?”