Mia Oldroyd Coaching

Mia Oldroyd Coaching Coaching for women who are sick of diets, overwhelm and tiredness. Personal Trainer, Transformation Coach & ADHD Coach.

A piece of advice I hear all the time that I think is misplaced: “If you wanted it badly enough, you’d do it”.It’s a com...
10/04/2026

A piece of advice I hear all the time that I think is misplaced: “If you wanted it badly enough, you’d do it”.

It’s a comforting idea. That we can rely solely upon our own self-will to achieve anything and everything we want to. It gives us all the power, control - independence. No chains to anyone or anything; it’s a very westernised idea that we don’t need anyone or anything to succeed.

But we are also products of our environment, upbringing, wiring, constitution. We aren’t somehow separate from our environment and we aren’t immune to it. It’s very hilarious for us to think that we can somehow overcome nature.

And sure - some can. But why make it unnecessarily hard and long if you don’t need to?

We need community, social support, an environment around us that reminds us and helps us to behave and live how we so desire.

Throughout human history we have depended on and utilised community and social support to keep ourselves in check. We are not an animal that thrives on our own.

We’re often so entangled in a multitude of different conflicting desires that ‘choice’ is a hard thing to find contact with.

We want health, but we overeat.

We want good sleep, but we stay up late on our phones.

We want to be fit, but we want to stay sitting down.

We want social connection, but we want to avoid the discomfort of new connections.

We want things that oppose all the time. It’s the very nature of being a human being.

You can’t expect an alcoholic to recover alone, in their house full of bottles of wine.

You can’t expect to break your phone addiction, when your phone and all its shiny objects are in your pocket 24/7.

You can’t expect to stop overeating, when you’ve been dieting for 50 years and hold so many deeply engrained beliefs and ideas about yourself and food.

We need a behaviourally supportive environment, social support and ongoing introspection and awareness.

Rarely can this be done via an app and in the confines of your own mind.

It’s great that the internet provides us so many free resources and that the all mighty evil but sometimes useful chatGPT can provide us more information than we could gain from a person,

But - nothing comes close to human to human.

Will, want and unbounded information are rarely enough.

Because it was never your lack of will, want or information that got you in the place you want to get out of.

Humans. Speak to humans.

Maybe you can’t do this alone? And maybe that’s not a personal failure. Maybe you were never meant to.

I've always loved the sky for an analogy of what it is to be human.We - the ongoing, non-judgmental awareness, the sun i...
08/04/2026

I've always loved the sky for an analogy of what it is to be human.

We - the ongoing, non-judgmental awareness, the sun if you like - that witnesses and remains bright and steady throughout the whole experience,

And the clouds, wind, rain - the experiences, thoughts, feelings, emotions, sensations, circumstances, life events, change, challenges, ideas, beliefs, concepts.

In the west, we so heavily identify with all the things that move - constantly taking us away from this moment now, taking us away from the knowing that we aren't the thoughts, feelings, emotions, things.

We so heavily prioritise our intellect over intuition,

Doing over being,

Holding on over letting go,

Resisting over accepting,

Working over resting,

it's not that these things are bad, or wrong - it's that we're often so out of balance with the two sides

I'm sure you know directly just how exponentially easy it is for one thought to lead to 5 to 20 to a sleepless night and still no solutions,

For one feeling to create a spiral of thinking and a thousand more feelings,

There is a space away from the intellect, away from the thinking, away from the spiralling and analysis,

A space that - just like the sky, allows everything to exist and move, without gripping onto things tightly or trying to change the weather.

It is an artful dance to learn how to let go and actually just rest here.

And it's a key thing to be able to do to shield yourself from burnout.

NSDR, Yoga Nidra and many other awareness based-meditative practices have shown in the research just how physiologically, deeply restful this 'liminal space' can be,

But we all know this, right?

That resting is good for us.

But in our culture of ongoing productivity-guilt, those of us with ADHD or type A busy-intellectual minds - it's not as easy at that.

Which is why I'm running a 90 minute Meditation For Busy Minds workshop -

it's for people who:

- "can't meditate" because their brain just doesn't stop

- never seem to have the time (or motivation) to slow down

- feel constantly 'on' and close to burnout

what makes this different?

- you don't need to quieten your mind, stop your thoughts,

- you don't need to sit in a certain pose, you can move, fidget, lie down, or leave if it's not for you

- and.. most importantly - you'll leave with tools that you can use, practicality, in real life. Not just with your eyes closed when it's silent.

Comment 'workshop' and I'll message you the details!

I was speaking to a client recently who has been dieting since the age of 12.She has been expressing to me how truly fed...
07/04/2026

I was speaking to a client recently who has been dieting since the age of 12.

She has been expressing to me how truly fed up and sick of dieting she is, and obscurely, how only when she diets, does she want to binge eat..

I have so many problems with the diet industry - aside from it just being the norm that every woman, despite body size or shape or genetic predisposition or age, should casually starve themselves

There is a drive for health: energy, vitality, longevity,

And there is a drive that is a bit darker, deeper and twisted than that - and that drive is what is often perpetuated by the diet industry,

The method of weight loss encouraged by the diet industry rarely ever works, because it's a highly profitable business model - repeating the restrict, binge, restrict, binge cycle.

Starving yourself, isn't the answer. The body is a tad smarter than that.

But what an elusive, exciting idea?

That if you do this really extreme thing, for only 2,3, 4 weeks - then all of your emotional and physical problems are solved.

And this is supported by the ongoing belief system in women's health that everything needs to be excruciatingly arduous in order to be successful.

A bit like fashion - only when your organs are falling our from the tightness of your jeans and the arches of your feet have collapsed from your high heels, only then - are you considered beautiful

There's an artist called Paris Paloma who I saw live the other month, and a lyric from one of her songs really struck me:

"When you hate the body you are in,

Oh love, you're just acting for him"

Because, aside from unrealistic beauty standards and this odd idea that women's bodies aren't meant to age, change, be different from one another, and god forbid - have fat around your lower stomach, hips, thighs..

Why do we hate our bodies?

Why do you hate how your body looks?

You can have a drive for health, longevity, energy, vitality, free from hating and shaming your body.

And funnily enough - when you get out of this vicious cycle of dieting,

Move your body to make it work better for you,

Fuel your body so it can function well (this doesn't involve cutting out carbs and starving yourself: this means eating actual meals, having a snack when you're hungry, etc),

Your body naturally, gradually over time - moves to where it wants to be.

But like anything grounded in nature - it takes time, it is a process.

And we can't rush or shortcut the process... and if you do - you'll soon meet the consequences of that.

So -

What do you want? How do you want to feel? How do you want to show up in your life?

Change your life in only 14 days? Lose your entire body weight and some in 28? Do this 3 day diet and reset your entire ...
15/07/2025

Change your life in only 14 days? Lose your entire body weight and some in 28? Do this 3 day diet and reset your entire immune system? Blah blah blah.

Magic sells. The fitness industry is a booming market with everyone’s giant shiny butts and rock solid core on display that you too can have if you buy their programme or just do this one exercise or new app.

The great (and often sad in comparison) truth is:

It takes time.

Changing your physiology takes damn time.

It takes consistent input.

It takes doing the basics consistently.

Not everything for one week, crashing down the next.

In my 5 years of coaching people for this, there’s been a pretty obvious pattern.

The people who just show up - regardless of what’s going on, how they’re feeling, how much they can do, how much they haven’t done - are the ones that long-term see success.

Seeing slow, gradual change is a GREAT thing. That’s a sign that you’re doing something that will last and stay with you.

But there’s no hacks. No secrets. No special diet. No weird and wacky solution.

Just slowly and quietly showing up, doing the work and having the patience of a saint.

Which is a message that’ll probably never go viral. Because it’s boring. It doesn’t shortcut our challenges.

But the truth is exactly that.

I now have a few spaces available for Personal Training & Online Coaching - message me for more details 🙌🏻










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