14/03/2024
Isn't it amazing how, what could be classed as just another day can give you another huge lesson in life's long journey.
The Berkshire Area Taekwon Do grading provided that lesson.
To me life is like a game of snakes 🐍 & ladders🪜 - you're born and you've just come onto the board, you don't know what is above you or what dizzy heights you may reach.
Like snakes and ladders you take some steps up, think everything is going well and then something happens, you take a hit and you slide back down again, often beyond the point where you thought everything was good.
You never know what to expect. I never expected to fall out of a first floor window at the age of 6, breaking my leg and having to learn how to walk again. Life lesson - never jump without a parachute 🪂 because it hurts.
Then all the growing up stuff; moving houses; making friends, losing friends; changing schools; boyfriends/girlfriends, finding your one true love; starting working; changing jobs; getting married; getting divorced; starting over!
You buy your first house, bring another life into this world, an amazing daughter (Grace). Move house, bring another life into this world, an amazing son (Jacob) and it starts all over again.
You help them to navigate their own snakes 🐍 & ladders🪜 board, hoping they don't make the same mistakes that you did. Luckily, Jacob didn't fall out of a first floor window at 6 years old!
The lessons Grace and Jacob have taught me have been immense and I'm still learning - now they both have their own houses and forging their own amazing careers.
There's not "An Idiots Guide to being a Dad!". I'm sure if there was I would have made every single gaff in the book - actually, I could probably have written the book.
Then, just when you think you can't learn any more, you get another life lesson.
I opened my Taekwon Do school on 1st July 2019. If someone had told me that about 10 years earlier I would be a martial arts school owner that would have been the furthest from my thoughts.
When I opened the doors I had about 20 people turn up for the first lesson and then the realisation hits you - you're now responsible for the progression of these 20 people. Many of those that came along, came to support me (that's what friends do) but only two joined.
Following this I had two more, a great class of just 4 people, Charlotte & James Taylor (brother & sister), Paul and Tyra Greenwood (dad & daughter). Two of these students, Paul and Charlotte are still training.
Many have come and gone but the school is still thriving and I'm now coaching Little PUMAs (4 to 7 year olds), helping to shape their formative years.
Charlotte joined just after the summer of 2019, with her brother James as a fairly confident young lady, 11 years old.
As one of the first students to grade Charlotte has helped to shape my Taekwon Do coaching journey as she has progressed through the grades. Having successfully graded to 1st KUP on Sunday (with Alice grading to 2nd KUP and Nina grading to 3rd KUP) it's made me understand how much I've needed to change and adapt to help her and the other students on their Taekwon Do journeys.
Just when you think you're personal development can slow down you realise that it actually has to pick up a pace to help your students continue on their own personal journeys to Black Belt.
I know that my journey as a Taekwon Do school owner, instructor, referee and a student on his way to achieving his 2nd Degree does require to move to the another level.
This is a journey I'll be embarking on with my own senior grades and my peers in other schools and throughtout my parent organisation PUMA.
As I'll be doing with my senior grades (those at Blue Belt and above) I'll be helping them develop a plan called (something like) "From Blue to Black and Beyond", where we can clearly identify the actions that we need to take to get us to that next level.
This undoubtedly will include many personal challenges, working outside of our comfort zones and pushing ourselves beyond our own perceived limits.
I'm so looking forward to this challenge, helping to make myself a better instructor, my students and myself better martial artists and generally improve who we are as individuals.
The benefit to the other members of HCMA will be huge. They'll get hands on support and advice from people that know what it takes to become a senior grade.
A massive new challenge for myself and all students of HCMA. Keep watching to see how we progress.