07/12/2022
This is a story about a fisherman who goes to a great fishing stream he's heard about and he's been wanting to go there for a long time. Finally, he gets there and he throws his line in the water and he waits. He looks down the bank and there's an old fisherman down the bank and he's just pulling in one fish after another. Every fish the fisherman pulls out of the stream, he unhooks it and he measures the fish by a broken off ruler that laying there on the edge of the river bank. If the fish is bigger than the broken off ruler the fisherman tosses the fish back in the stream. If however the fish is smaller than the broken off ruler the fisherman puts that fish in his bucket.
The young fisherman is watching this and he thinks why is he throwing all the big fish back and keeping the little ones? Do they get bony if they get big or something? I mean what's going on here? So he goes down and he interrupts the old guy. He says 'Could you explain to me about why you throw the big fish back and keep the little ones? Do they get bony if they get big or something?' The old guy says 'Young man, look at this. See that broken off ruler there on the edge of the river bank?' The kid says 'Yeah, I see it.' and the old guy goes 'I just measure every fish that I catch by that broken off ruler because that broken off ruler is broken off at exactly the size of the frying pan I use.'
Now, we'd laugh at a fisherman that would be like that but you know, unconsciously we all do that. The stream of life tosses us a big fish. It's an idea. It's a possibility. It's a possible future and we measure that idea by the frying pan or the life that we have and we say I don't have the education. I don't have the money. I am too old. I don't have the age. I don't have the contacts. My frying pan doesn't hold that dream. And unconsciously we will throw that fish, that idea, that dream back into the stream of life and say give me a fish that fits my frying pan. Give me an idea that is just a little bit of a rearrangement of the life I have known that I think is possible based on the circumstances I have.
Get out of that rabbit hole. The truth is, as long as you are breathing, you are creating a life. Now it is up to you weather to choose a life of default by sticking with your current frying pan or create a life of design by getting a bigger pan!
For me it is a clear decision, get a bigger frying pan. And if you don’t know how, then hire a coach to help you.
