13/11/2025
Last night I lost my dad to cancer. From diagnosis to end of life we had a mere nine days. The suddenness of this devastating loss has been one of the hardest weeks for my family and I to bear. We got through it because of the beautiful people around us; the neighbours who cooked casseroles and volunteered beds, the kind words of near-strangers, the deep love of family who flew in from various continents to care and mourn with us. I am beyond grateful to the incredible machine that is the NHS, this wonderful thing that Britain has built that we all need in some way large or small, and to the small army of people who helped Daddy wrestle this ghastly thing that is pancreatic cancer with their knowledge, their skill and their compassion…please keep the NHS funded! I’m also beyond thankful to for proving that she is even more beautiful inside than she is out by stepping in at the last minute so I could be with my dad as he took his last breath, and to the wonderful team of Andy and and at who make my work environment joyful. I have found grief to be a slippery thing; I feel joy when I should be crying and I cry when I could be smiling; I have spent a lot of this week jumping around between classes to loud music to stave off the pain, but I’m so grateful to for her fairy mouse, and to .jane.coles for her kombucha and her gallows humour, as well as to , and for the solidarity and beautiful sister-spirit from , , and . I have also been so grateful for the job I do, this week above all others. Working as a coach in this space is such a privilege, and I’m so lucky to do a job that doesn’t feel hard even when navigating such despair. I am so thankful for the clients I get to show up for and who show up for me and the work we do: , , among so many others. Most of all, I’m thankful for my daddy; the tender, curious, silly, dogged, tasteful, kind, wonderful man that I’m lucky to call my father. Rest well, Daddy. I love you.