12/09/2026
π₯ **KIDS BJJ: WHY THE FIGHT FOR GRIPS STARTS BEFORE THE TAKEDOWN**
Watch experienced Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu players and you'll notice something interesting.
Before the obvious technique happens, there's often a smaller battle taking place:
**Who controls whom first?**
This is grip fighting, and it's one of the areas where BJJ becomes extremely technical.
We teach our young students that simply grabbing their partner isn't enough. A useful grip should have a purpose.
From standing, controlling a sleeve, wrist, collar or arm can help a student:
π― Manage distance
βοΈ Disrupt their partner's balance
π‘οΈ Reduce attacking options
π£ Create an angle
π₯ Set up a takedown
But there's another side to the problem.
**What grips does your opponent have on YOU?**
Sometimes removing a dangerous grip is more important than establishing your own.
On the ground, the same principles continue.
A good grip can prevent someone turning towards you, control their posture, help maintain guard or create the reaction needed for a sweep.
And this introduces children to a much deeper concept in BJJ:
**Control usually comes before the technique.**
Instead of thinking:
*"I know this takedown, so I'll try the takedown."*
We want them eventually thinking:
*"I need this position and this control first. Now the opportunity for my takedown has appeared."*
π§ That's a major step in a child's development as a grappler.
It also teaches them that strength isn't the answer to every problem.
If your opponent is resisting strongly in one direction, perhaps pulling harder isn't the solution. Change the angle. Change the grip. Create movement. Make them react.
At Maidenhead Martial Arts, our aim isn't simply to give children an ever-growing collection of BJJ moves.
We want them to understand **position, leverage, reaction and control** so they gradually learn how the pieces of Jiu-Jitsu fit together.
π₯ Establish control.
π§ Create the reaction.
π― Recognise the opportunity.
π₯ Then use the technique.
That's when BJJ starts becoming a game of strategy rather than strength.