11/06/2026
I bought into the productivity lie. For years I thought I was a failure for not being able to get up at 5am and do yoga before Matcha before a 7 step fully sponsored skin care routine.
I didn't manage to meditate. I was in a toxic on and off relationship with my journal and it could take 5 - 8 business days for my clean washing to make it into a put away state.
I was exhausted and disconnected and feeling guilty for the three things left on my list at the end of the day - even if 1200 things had been successfully completed.
I am a high performer. I swoop in and get the job done but no matter how much I managed, how successful I was or what I achieved it was never ever enough.
I was listening to the noise and trying to optimise all the things others laid out for me. I was listening to what worked for them rather than figuring out what truly works for me.
But I learned fast when I started being around and working with highly successful people.
Successful in money yes, but also in relationships, in friendships, in family, in down time, within themselves and without compromise.
The women creating extraordinary businesses, movements, and legacies...
-Their houses are a mess sometimes.
- They sleep in past 11 sometimes
- They say no to events unless there is a very real tangible return or they can have a blast by being there.
-They don't like or attempt to socially climb - they don't need you to see them, if you don't naturally see them.
-They invest in time away from the business
-They understand not every day is a profit day
-They are comfortable in their own skin
-They make their own decisions.
-They hire people like me.
They aren't building from productivity.
They're building from energetic congruence.
Their decisions align with their values.
Their business aligns with their identity.
Their goals align with their nervous system's capacity to hold them.
Because success that requires you to abandon yourself isn't success.
It's sophisticated self-betrayal.