LegallyNik

08/06/2026

A well-drafted Parenting Plan or Child Arrangements Order can prevent countless disagreements later. Whilst every family is different, these are five provisions I regularly see parents wish they had addressed from the outset.

1. Sleeping Arrangements 😴
Be clear about your position regarding bed-sharing.

Many disputes arise when children are expected to share beds with new partners, step-siblings, or other children within a household. If this is something you are uncomfortable with, consider addressing it specifically within your agreement.

If appropriate, include that children should have their own sleeping space and clarify whether this applies during holidays and overnight stays away from home.

2. First Right of Refusal 🛑
This means that if one parent is unable to care for the child during their allocated parenting time, the other parent is offered the opportunity to care for the child before alternative childcare arrangements are made.

For many parents, this helps maximise time with their child and ensures extended periods of childcare are not routinely delegated elsewhere.

3. Communication Expectations 🗣️
One of the most common frustrations I hear is: “They never respond.”

Consider including:
✨A requirement to respond to child-related communications within a specified timeframe (for example, 24 or 48 hours).
✨Agreement that communication remains focused solely on matters concerning the child.
✨The use of a parenting app if communication is particularly difficult.

4. Extracurricular Activities ⚽️
Children’s lives do not stop because parents separate.

Where possible, include provisions about Continuing existing clubs, sports, and activities

5. Social Media and Online Privacy 📱
Discuss social media from the beginning.

If one parent does not want the child featured online, or wishes to limit what information is shared, it is far easier to agree expectations early than argue about them later.

Consider:
✨Whether photographs can be posted.
✨Whether identifying information can be shared.
✨Whether both parents’ consent is required before posting

If helpful I can post a part 2 this week ❤️

07/06/2026

The moment I became a mother, something primal was born within me.

The love, the devotion, the overwhelming rush of emotion came in the days and weeks that followed. But from the second they arrived, there was something else: an instinct to protect. To feed, to hold close, to keep safe.

Then I became a single mother.

And that instinct became a force.

It demanded strength I didn’t know I possessed, resilience I never knew I would need, and a tenacity that refused to quit, no matter how exhausted, broken, or afraid I felt.

Feminine energy is not just softness. It is not only nurturing, gentle, and kind.

It is also the lioness.

It is the volcano.

It is the woman who rises, again and again, because little eyes are watching her.

Never underestimate a woman with children depending on her.

05/06/2026

04/06/2026

How much responsibility have you carried in attempting to engage them into parenting or just spending time with their children?

It’s as simple as if they wanted to they would.

But every moment you are chasing, begging, over facilitating , over engaging - you are taking something away from you! Your time, your love, your presence. It leaves you depleted, hurt, disappointed, living in the shadow of their parenting rather than your own. So what if you …. Let go. Would the other parent still be there? Or would they fade. That’s not on you. That’s on them. You have one shot at this journey - embrace it, truly embrace it,

03/06/2026

Every time I think I’m not doing enough, I’m not enough, that I need to do more - they say something to remind me just how blessed I am and how good we are x

02/06/2026

Can you claim to love your children whilst hating on their other parent (especially if that parent is their primary care giver)
How can the two be true?
How can love and hate coexist at such proximity?
How can one feel like the children are safe?

This is less about how the courts see it and more about the reality so many face, contend and live with.

01/06/2026

May favourites 🌸✨

I am starting to making a conscious effort to pour sparkles of happiness into my life.

I’m saying “YES” to far more than I used to - whether it be work related endeavours or personal. I’m booking the baby sitter or calling in my sister as extra help and I’m “doing that thing” or “going to that place”. I always used to say NO - I can’t possibly go there, I can’t possibly do that, I can’t ask for help again…. I’m done with that attitude.

I have the best group of women/hype crew around me, they protect, support & love me and my babies like family. Spending time with them is deeply therapeutic… & if my soul is rested so is my nervous system.

Iv then, through these squares on the gram met another group of incredibly inspiring women…. 🥹❤️✨

May, you have been kind with your warm weather, time spent with beautiful people, memories made with the babes & opportunities I’m deeply grateful for x