14/05/2020
Are We All OK? 👍👎 Swipe left ➡️ to take your position at the OK CORRAL 🤠 The OK corral is inspired by the work of Eric Berne a psychotherapist who roughly picked up where Sigmund Freud left off. The quadrant considers the 4 life positions we take in relation to other people. Berne believed that by the time we reach our late teens we assume one of these positions. Consider it to be your default, though that doesn’t mean it can’t be changed. I’m OK, You’re OK is the healthy adult ego state. This one comes from a place of self esteem. We accept others as different but equal. Our approach is respectful of others values, thoughts, feelings & behaviours. I’m OK, You’re Not OK. I’m better than you😌False esteem lives here. It’s when we need to be adored & placed on a pedestal. Ironically our society has some pretty sneaky ways of promoting this one to us, via advertising & disguising it in ego led inspirational quotes. Like winning at all costs, or killing them with kindness ( really you’re that kind you’re going to kill me) or taking the higher ground. I’m not OK, You Are OK. Aghh the shame 💩 storm & coming from a place of no self esteem. This is when we feel super small & want the world to swallow us up. We lack confidence to share our thoughts & feelings. I’m Not OK, You Are Not OK 🤯 we are both worthless human beings. This is considered to be the hopeless 😩 position for obvious reasons. I recognise that with certain people at times I’ve assumed all these positions. Particularly at times of conflict. Self growth & becoming emotionally intelligent is a journey of self awareness. With everything knowledge is power. It’s when we know these things we can take that personal inventory & see where we’re really coming from. It grows real self esteem & emotional intelligence. 🙏❤️🙏 We always have that choice to change the position.
I AM ALWAYS OK 👌🏻 & SO ARE YOU ALWAYS OK 👌🏻 ❤️❤️ Lots of Love KK ❤️❤️ @ London, United Kingdom