26/11/2023
‼️ Be warned… a contentious and often spiky topic yet one I feel I am well versed in voicing…
💪💪Having done the hard yards alongside the easy inches within my career to date I am one of those people who ‘life coaches’ love to detest.
👩👳🏽♂️👩🏿🦰👦You see, I strongly disagree with people moving into a space where we are dealing with human-beings, PEOPLE that can carry a lot of trauma, personal baggage through difficult and challenging lived experience, yet don’t hold the deep underlying qualifications in human behaviour, psychology, and neuroscience.
📕 📖 Requests such as ‘what book can I read about coaching someone with neurodiversity’ and the like are frequent. Very little in the way of ethics is taught on a coaching diploma giving individuals the belief and confidence that they can coach and work with anyone. Based on a qualification involving contact one weekend a month for probably 6 months max. I hate to admit it but I too have been there, done it, and got the t-shirt but I did have degrees in psychology so cut me some slack 😜
👨⚕️ Now, we wouldn’t ask for a surgeon to do a challenging operation or a member of the public who didn’t have a detailed pilots licence to fly a Boeing 767 when going on holiday so why should the coaching profession be deemed any different? We are still dealing with one of the most fundamental pieces of human apparatus, the centralised cog ⚙️ that drives behaviour, the human brain 🧠
🤔🤔When I expressed my beliefs towards a post on FB for another inept course to make you a ‘Master Coach’ with the ‘Number one coaching school’, (still not sure where they got that metric but it says a lot if you step back and reflect 🤔), I was jumped on and ravaged like a poor defenceless fox 🦊 hunted by a pack of hounds 🐶… okay that part was just to seek some attention 😂… for those who know me, of course I put my opinion forward only to be disappointed by the lack of challenge presented!
🙈🙈Is it someone’s fault if when having had a midlife crisis (often if the case), decided on an easy option to re qualify? How can the metric based of number of hours coached make you an incredible, phenomenal, astounding ‘coach’ giving you PCC or MCC credentials after your name… oh fancy huh! even if it sounds more like a DJ spinning the decks!
🎩🎩Hours coached is seen as a better benchmark than someone with deep rooted credentials in human performance in addition to coaching hours and qualifications… 🫤 yep I too am puzzled at the apparent gold standard within the coaching industry!
🧶🧶🧶Someone without any real depth, knowledge or personal experience (that comes in combination not one without the other if you want to create excellence in another person) within the psychologies, neuroscience, belonging and human behaviour can still be labelled as a star within the profession is a tad worrying.
🏊♀️ However, no point moaning, worrying, or making myself appear like a spiteful irritated brat… (If you have a deep knowledge and understanding around psychology you will know about Transactional Analysis at a level deeper than the shallow end of your swimming pool 🏊♂️ for some reason that made me chuckle 🤭) no no no… I am firmly in the adult space where my business as an executive coach, psychologist and empowered leadership expert ensures that each and every person is getting the service they deserve not the service you hoped and was unfortunately lacking.
🦄🦄You see, even if you felt the service was great that a ‘life coach’ offered what blueprint did you have to compare and contrast against…? When we part with our hard earned cash there is an operational function within the brain 🧠 that wants us to believe it was a groundbreaking experience when in reality it was… well you can fill in the blanks!
👨👩👧👦👨👨👦👩👧We can only control ourselves and the work that we do and deliver and my promise to you is that each of my sessions comes from a person first perspective. That means your wellbeing, psychological safety and mindset are looked after first and foremost. If I am unable to work with you as we just don’t click or I feel that your goals and challenges are outside my own competencies I will refer to someone professionally equipped to move you forward and build momentum.
⭐️⭐️⭐️My life time aim is to build clients through advocacy, long-term clients, people who trust in my work and build relationships that stand the test of time. We will challenge at a deeper level than most but at a level that is built upon solid foundations, those involving safety for the person, so we move forward through deep internal reflection, collaboration and insight.
💥💥💥 You like… 😜 I should say love what you hear 😂 then enter my world so we can challenge perspective through insightful conversations that ignite forward momentum.
Desislava Dobreva
