29/07/2026
We asked the women in our community a simple question:
What’s stopping you from becoming the confident communicator you want to be?
What came back was kinda what we thought we’d see but some things still surprised us.
We were surprised to find out that the average confidence score was 5/10.
But we were heartened to see that when we asked where they’d like to be in three months, the average jumped to 9/10. Our community was ready for a change.
Granted, that’s a big shift to achieve in a relatively short space of time, but naturally, we wanted to understand what was sitting in the middle so that we could set about creating something to help.
What we found wasn’t a lack of skill.
In fact, 9 out of 10 women told us they already knew what they wanted to say. Something else was getting in the way.
For some, it was the fear of being judged. Worrying about sounding too much, not enough, too confident or not confident enough.
For others, life had knocked their confidence. Maternity leave. A difficult manager. A career break. Experiences that had quietly chipped away at their self-belief.
Others described something we hear all the time in coaching sessions. They know their stuff. They can explain it brilliantly in their head. Then the meeting starts, all eyes are on them, and suddenly the words disappear.
None of that is about capability.
It’s about what happens when pressure, self-doubt and your nervous system get involved.
And that’s why we’ve never believed confident communication starts with learning clever phrases or memorising presentation tips (sure, those things have their place)
But we know it starts with building enough trust in yourself that you can access what you already know, even when the stakes feel high.
Reading these responses was a reminder that so many women aren’t lacking confidence because they aren’t capable.
They’re lacking confidence because something is getting between what they know... and what they’re able to express.
If any of that feels familiar, we’ve put together a free two-minute quiz to help you understand what might be getting in your way.
Comment Quiz and we’ll send you the link 👇
