19/12/2025
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When a Black woman says โBlack women deserve moreโ, why is the reflex response so often:
โALL women deserve moreโ ?
Itโs the same energy as โBlack Lives Matterโ being met with โALL lives matter.โ
Yes. Of course all lives matter.
Yes. Of course all women deserve more.
But that is not the point โ and pretending it is, is part of the problem.
When a Black woman makes the statement that ๐ธ๐ฆ deserve more, it is not an attack.
It is not excluding.
It is not dismissing anyone elseโs struggle.
It is naming a reality.
Because when it comes to being a Black woman, inequity is not the exception โ it is the standard.
In healthcare, we sit at the bottom when it comes to culturally competent care.
We are less likely to be believed.
Less likely to be listened to.
More likely to have our pain minimised, our symptoms dismissed, our experiences gaslit.
So when we say Black women deserve more, we are not asking for special treatment.
We are calling out what has ๐ด๐บ๐ด๐ต๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ค๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐บ been denied.
This isnโt about ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ.
Itโs about a group of women who have been marginalised, stigmatised, ignored, dismissed, and told โ repeatedly โ that what we are experiencing isnโt real, isnโt serious, isnโt worthy of urgency or care.
Responding with โALL women deserve moreโ derails the conversation.
It centres comfort over truth.
And it silences a very specific, very real injustice.
So pause next time.
Listen.
Consider the context.
Because when a Black woman says we deserve more, we are not asking to be corrected.
We are stating a fact.
We deserve more.
Period.
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