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04/09/2026

If you're struggling in relationships, work, love, or happiness... you may be dealing with a self esteem issue.

Here's why...

Self esteem is at the core of everything you do!

If you truly value yourself, you'll go after what you want and really enjoy it...

If you don't value yourself, no matter how hard you work... you won't feel like you deserve it.

Does that sound familiar at all?

The good news is you can build your self esteem!

Here's how...

By building the reputation you have with yourself.

It's a daily practice that includes some key areas...

Live consciously - every small decision you make throughout the day either strengthens or weakens how you see yourself... choose mindfully.

Accept yourself - be your own best friend, not your own worst enemy! You're not perfect and never will be... accept yourself, imperfections and all.

Take responsibility - once you accept full responsibility for your life... you have the power to change things. Until then, you're just a passenger.

Assert yourself - You have the right to exist and take up space. This means standing up for your values, wants and needs. You can ditch the people pleasing!

Live purposely - You have to set goals for yourself. This means actively engaging in life. The results will let you know if you need to change anything.

Have personal integrity - When you do things that go against your values, you hurt yourself. When you live your values, you build your self-esteem.

So the bottom line is...

If you're having trouble in relationships, work, love or happiness...

Work on your self esteem first, and watch things start to change for the better.

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29/07/2026

You lost your job... now what?

If you never liked where you were working, then redundancy can be a relief.

Otherwise, it can be super stressful and bring up all kinds of difficult emotions.

"Why me?"
"What am I going to do?"
"What's next?"

Like any breakup (work or personal)...

You want to get back into the scene as quickly as possible...

But also give yourself a second to breathe, take care of yourself, and get your confidence back.

Therapy can help get you back on your feet again... and go after what you really want.
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27/06/2026

I took up swimming again at the beginning of last year... with the goal of improving my front crawl.

I did that, which felt pretty good... but I wasn't expecting the added mental health benefits!

Which is why it's great to see an article in the latest David Lloyd Clubs rag promoting exactly that...

"Flow State: How swimming boosts your mental health."

They list a few reasons why...

For me it was a combination of all of them...

The buoyancy of the water allows me to let go and relax into the exercise... promoting a sense of wellbeing.

The immersion and rhythmic breathing provides a form of moving meditation... which helps quiet the mind.

And showing up consistently means there's a social and community aspect... which buffers against loneliness and stress.

Have you experienced the mental health benefits of swimming?

Comment below.

25/06/2026

Jamie Laing was a keynote at the latest conference for small business owners in Newcastle.

During his interview with Suman Randhawa - Sales & Messaging Consultant one of the first things he said was "most business owners should have therapy".

I was surprised to hear him say that, but was even more surprised by his reasons why...

For him, being an entrepreneur means you need the self-awareness to know what you're good at and what you're bad at...

So that you can keep the play in your business (and not be so adult about it)... and take risks without fear.

I love this positive message around how therapy can help...

Rather than only focusing on the stress of being a business owner and what that can trigger (e.g. feeling overwhelmed).

Comment PLAY in the comments if you agree with Jamie.

25/06/2026

Did you know that millions of low-wage data workers are needed to train AI?

I thought AI magically figured things out on its own!

Turns out it needs human beings to tell it what it's looking at.

Unfortunately, for many this means looking at horrific images all day long...

Leaving them needing therapy for mental and emotional problems.

Here's a link to the DW documentary 'The dark side of AI - Exploitation of humans and nature':

Magical, autonomous, all-powerful: Artificial intelligence fuels ou...

02/06/2026

Have you ever felt like you're living a lie?

Pretending to be something you're not?

Maybe doing some job you hate?

It's actually pretty common to feel that way...

Most of us got conditioned by our society to think, feel and act a certain way.

The good news is... you have more control over how your life goes than you think.

Therapy is an amazing way to set yourself free from past conditioning... so you can feel like yourself again.

Break the chains, and go after what you really want!

22/05/2026

The big dream of automating boring tasks was to free up energy for creative pursuits... now we're outsourcing our creativity to AI... what's left for us to do?

18/05/2026

It's mental health awareness week this week (11-17 May)... so if you're a founder it's a good time to check in with yourself to see how you're doing.

Entrepreneurship is exciting... but also means you're 5x more likely to have anxiety than the general population.

The good news?

You can do something about it!

The first step is to recognise that it's happening... because you can't change what you can't see.

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FYI - Think anxiety is influencing your leadership?... Take The Calm Founder Leadership Scorecard to find out: https://alan-unyeotud.scoreapp.com

17/05/2026

I've been at the intersection of therapy and entrepreneurship for 20 years.

What I've noticed with myself and my clients is that fear, anxiety and scarcity can motivate a certain amount of success... but it's not sustainable!

This led me to search for a better way to take care of myself, grow my practice... and give my clients the best chance for success.

And voila, The Calm Founder Framework™️ was born.

It's a 3 stage process to reduce what I call "anxiety-driven leadership".

✅ Stage 1 is Recognise "You can't change what you can't see"
✅ Stage 2 is Regulate "Calm is a skill not a personality trait"
✅ Stage 3 is Lead "Lead the business, not the other way around"

What makes this approach unique is that the focus is 💯% on YOU... not learning another business strategy.

The underlying philosophy is to make sure you prioritise yourself first...

Then you'll be in the best possible position to lead successfully.

Wouldn't it be great to grow your business... without sacrificing your health, relationships or peace?

This is what drives me every day. 🚀

If you think you might be leading from anxiety...

Make sure to take The Calm Founder Leadership scorecard to find out...

👉 https://alan-unyeotud.scoreapp.com

To your success,

Alan Bordeville

16/05/2026

A reactive business with constant “quick questions” is like a house where the kids are yelling “Mom!!” every 3 minutes.

If you drop what you’re doing every time they call... you’ve unintentionally trained the whole house how to act to feel safe.

That’s what anxiety-driven leadership does in a service business. Your over-responsiveness becomes the regulation strategy for everyone else.
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FYI - Think anxiety is influencing your leadership?... Take The Calm Founder Leadership Scorecard to find out: https://alan-unyeotud.scoreapp.com