11/08/2026
Something that often comes up with my clients is the word ‘success’.
“I just want to be successful.”
(If you sang Drake in your head…that’s another kind of success in my book. DM me please 👏😂)
“Ok. What does successful mean to you?”
“Umm…” 🤔
Becoming a director.
Making partner.
Being a manager.
A bigger house.
A nice car.
Nice holidays.
Private schooling.
Making the family proud.
And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with any of those things.
IF they actually mean something to YOU.
Because it’s incredible how you can achieve all the things you thought would make you successful… and still feel empty.
13 years ago, I had to create a ‘success vision board’ for work.
27-year-old me had 4 things on it:
💍 A wedding
🤿 Snorkelling in Sharm El Sheikh
👜 A Mulberry handbag
🏠 A house
By the end of that year, I had them all.
(I am a VERY focussed individual. Something my clients now benefit from massively 😂)
And 27-year-old me was very happy.
Fast forward 11 years, and my definition of success looked VERY different:
🧠 I want my mental health back
👨👩👧👦 I want time for my family
👯♀️ I want to have friends
💼 I want a career that fits my life, not the other way around
At no point during that decade did I stop and ask myself whether the life I was building still matched the life I actually wanted.
I just kept going.
Same pace, taking on more responsibility, working more hours, travelling even more.
Meanwhile, my life had completely changed.
I’d become a homeowner, a wife and a mum of two.
Looking back, it was ridiculous.
Who did I think I was, Superwoman?!
Apparently so. 🙄
But I think lots of us do this.
We choose a definition of success early in our careers…
…and then keep chasing it long after our lives have changed.
So my question is:
Are you still chasing a version of success that belonged to a previous version of you?
If your life has changed significantly in the last few years - kids, caring responsibilities, a relationship, buying a house, a change in priorities - maybe it’s time to redefine what success actually means to you now.
Not what looks successful to your parents, or your colleagues - YOU. 💛