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Do you ever find yourself wondering why things that once brought you so much joy no longer have the same effect? Life fe...
05/06/2026

Do you ever find yourself wondering why things that once brought you so much joy no longer have the same effect? Life feels a little flatter, even though nothing much has changed.

I was recently reminded of a psychological phenomenon called habituation. It’s what happens when we become accustomed to something through repeated exposure. For example, if you live under the Heathrow flight path, you may barely notice the constant sound of aircraft overhead, while visitors wonder how you can tolerate the noise.

The same thing happens with many of the good things in our lives. A lovely home you spent so much energy renovating, a loving partner, a rewarding job, good health, close friends, a beautiful sunset (you have seen many many times) - over time they can become part of the background. Not because they matter less, but because they have become familiar. We stop noticing them in the way we once did.

So what can we do about it?

One answer is to introduce novelty.

Try something different, visit somewhere new, take a different route, learn a new skill, or break your routine in small ways. The anticipation of an upcoming event can be just as powerful as the event itself, giving us something to look forward to and injecting a sense of excitement into everyday life.

But perhaps the other answer is to pause long enough to notice what is already there. Sometimes the things we are searching for are the very things we have stopped seeing.

Habituation may be a natural part of being human, but awareness of it can help us experience more gratitude, appreciation and joy in the lives we already have.

First impressions are formed long before you say a word.Before we speak, before we explain who we are, people have alrea...
19/05/2026

First impressions are formed long before you say a word.

Before we speak, before we explain who we are, people have already formed an opinion based on what they see. It’s human nature and even when we try to avoid it, unconscious bias plays a role in how we perceive others.

Clothing is one of the strongest signals we send.

When you feel confident in what you’re wearing, it shows. You carry yourself differently, you engage differently, and people respond to that energy. But confidence doesn’t always mean feeling “perfect” - sometimes it simply comes from feeling aligned with how you present yourself. We all know that feeling of being slightly uncomfortable in our outfit when it just doesn’t make you feel good – and there is not much you can do about it, apart from change your clothes!

I’ve always taken pride in how I dress as it is how I express myself and who I am. However, over time (and from feedback from people I have met!), I have realised that the way I present myself can come across as very confident - even intimidating or aloof to some. The truth is, I rarely feel that way internally. It’s just the signal my appearance sends before I say a word.
And that’s the thing - your wardrobe is communicating for you, whether you’ve chosen it intentionally or not.

As we get older, this becomes even more important. Style evolves, but it shouldn’t disappear. Staying true to who you’ve always been, while allowing your look to grow with you, is where real confidence lies. It’s not about chasing trends, it’s about remaining relevant in a way that still feels authentic to you.

We don’t want what we wear to be the reason we are judged, we want it to be the reason we are remembered – for the right reasons!

Style is a tool and used correctly can be very powerful.

If this is an area where you need help, ask an honest friend or a stylist for guidance - I can also help (link in comments).


So we finally made the move back to North London from Hertfordshire! It was a move 18 months in the making and we have b...
23/05/2025

So we finally made the move back to North London from Hertfordshire! It was a move 18 months in the making and we have been in our flat (yes flat) for 3 months now. And that is a tube sign in the background- it is at the top of our road!! 🚇

It has been a rollercoaster of emotions - euphoria that we had done it, dismay at the 400 boxes of unpack with no storage, excitement at discovering all these wonderful shops and restaurants on our (very hilly) doorstep and sadness at the loss of community and friends back “home”.

But it was what we wanted, we are close to family and old friends now and we are slowly building a new community and making a life here.

Bradley (our golden retriever) at 12 years old, is struggling with the stairs and hills sadly but is happy to spend most of his time sleeping in the sunny flat. Lotta just barks with excitement constantly!!

Moving is hard, change is hard but good things are coming from it and we are excited for the future and what it might bring!

A contemplative pose after a burning ceremony to let go of our limiting beliefs. This was something I had never done bef...
07/06/2024

A contemplative pose after a burning ceremony to let go of our limiting beliefs. This was something I had never done before but found it incredibly cleansing and emotional. Thank you and her retreats. A very special week in Soller Mallorca with some special people. Oh and the sparkly eye shadow added an extra touch!

I hear you say “not another newsletter!” and you are correct, it is another newsletter indeed but I can absolutely promi...
18/04/2024

I hear you say “not another newsletter!” and you are correct, it is another newsletter indeed but I can absolutely promise 💯 that, despite my bestest intentions, it will be not that regular!! So please do sign up and you can change your mind at any time. https://mailchi.mp/2f24c74e8da1/newsletter

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31/01/2024

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Meet Dr Zoë Rubins! Hard to believe our youngest daughter is now a Doctor. I personally did my best to dissuade her fro...
20/04/2023

Meet Dr Zoë Rubins!

Hard to believe our youngest daughter is now a Doctor.

I personally did my best to dissuade her from studying medicine but she was adamant and sure she wanted to do it. She believed she could and she did!

I had never been a believer in manifestations but I have seen it work time and time again and in Zoë’s case, she has proved that it does work.

There is a lot of talk about positive thinking and the sceptical amongst us would say that you can’t make things happen just by thinking about them.

But it is all about attitude and how you react to situations.

Positivity does attract positivity.

Why not give it a try? You just never know!




MEXICO! What an adventure. 5 cities in 12 days, 6 flights and a lot of road travel. I was really anxious about the flig...
16/03/2023

MEXICO! What an adventure. 5 cities in 12 days, 6 flights and a lot of road travel. I was really anxious about the flights but 2 sessions with were pretty life changing and I feel cured! The whole trip was organised by and I can’t wait to organise the next one now. We are thinking Borneo?

Do you speak Coach?One of the nicest things someone said to me recently was that, although there are hundreds of Life Co...
23/11/2022

Do you speak Coach?

One of the nicest things someone said to me recently was that, although there are hundreds of Life Coaches out there and it is a very crowded market, she felt would choose me if she had an issue that she needed to explore.

When I asked why, she said it was because she felt that I was coaching purely because I wanted to listen and support, rather than it being tied to any ‘personal’ motive.

I had only met her twice online, but she is obviously perceptive, as I felt she really summed me up. I’m in a very fortunate position where I haven’t had to heal myself, (although like everyone I have worries, fears and insecurities) but I do believe that I am empathetic to people who do have that need.

When I first started training, I was worried that I didn’t fit the template of a “coach”. I have never been one to talk in stereotypically ‘therapeutic’ language. Perhaps it's because it’s language I didn’t understand but it’s also simply not my usual style.

To the general public, coaching language is just a bunch of words and has no meaning for the untrained or someone who doesn’t speak the same language.

This concept was simply explained to me by as “imagine you’re on a bus in a foreign country and everyone around you is speaking a language you don’t know. You will hear the words, but you don’t understand what is going on.”

It is just noise.

It's the same with coach language.

I can tell you that I’m “holding the space” for you.

This means nothing to most people.

But to a coach it has a huge meaning – we allow people to sit in silence and think. By listening to our thoughts, we can understand a bit more about ourselves - what we like, what we don’t like, what we wish for and what makes us sad.

Personally, I like to speak plainly, directly and honestly. I generally do not take on other people’s emotions (apart from my daughters’ moods!) and am quite resilient.

I don’t speak Coach.

I just listen to you and hopefully speak your language.

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