18/10/2026
Guilt says, "I did something wrong."
Shame says, "There is something wrong with me."
But what happens when we feel guilty even when we haven't done anything wrong?
For saying no.
For needing time alone.
For setting boundaries.
For not meeting other people's expectations.
For simply having different needs.
For many of us, particularly those who are neurodivergent, guilt and shame can become familiar feelings.
Years of being misunderstood, criticised or feeling like we don't quite fit in can shape how we see ourselves.
Sometimes the expectations we're trying so hard to meet aren't even our own.
In my latest blog, I explore where guilt and shame come from, how they can affect our self-worth and ways we can begin responding to ourselves with more understanding and compassion.
Feeling guilty doesn't always mean you've done something wrong.
And making mistakes doesn't make you a bad person.
📖 Read the full blog here:
https://counsellingcoachingwithtoni.co.uk/blog/f/understanding-guilt-and-shame
