11/09/2026
Welcome š to my page; My name is Angie Mays, and Iām a Burnout Prevention Coach for women over 40 and the creator of The You First MethodĀ®ļø
I support exhausted women to recognise the patterns that are draining them, stop putting themselves last and protect their energy before burnout forces them to stop.
But I didnāt always understand burnout this way.
For as long as I can remember, I believed that hard work was the key to success.
At just 13, I got my first job and stayed with the same employer for 16 years. I learned very early that being responsible meant working hard, saying yes and putting work before myself.
Long hours became normal.
Pushing through became normal.
Putting myself last became normal.
And I carried that belief with me throughout my life.
I became the woman who took on extra responsibilities, rarely said no and kept going even when I was exhausted.
I thought being strong meant coping.
I thought being successful meant doing more.
And I thought I just needed to try harder.
Until my body finally said enough.
I fell down the stairs from exhaustion, badly injuring my coccyx and needing six weeks off work.
Youād think that would have been the wake-up call.
But instead, I felt guilty.
I couldnāt wait to get back. I worried about letting people down. I pushed myself back into work before I was truly ready.
And I carried on.
By my 40s, the cost of constantly putting myself last was becoming impossible to ignore.
I was exhausted. My body hurt. My mind wouldnāt switch off. I struggled to sleep and found myself spending my days off simply recovering from the week.
I was functioning.
But I wasnāt really living.
And thatās when I finally realised something.
Burnout wasnāt just about how much I was doing.
It was about how long I had been ignoring myself.
Iād become so good at looking after everything and everyone else that Iād stopped asking myself what I needed.
Iād normalised exhaustion.
Iād ignored the warning signs.
Iād said yes when I wanted to say no.
Iād pushed through when I needed to stop.
Iād put everyone elseās needs ahead of my own.
Iād abandoned myself.
And I realised I didnāt want to wait for another crisis to force me to change.
So I started doing things differently.
I learned to recognise my warning signs before they became a crisis. I learned how to protect my energy, create boundaries, listen to what I actually needed and make myself a priority without feeling guilty.
Most importantly, I learned that putting yourself first isnāt selfish. Itās essential.
That experience became the foundation of The You First Method Ā®ļø
Today, I help women over 40 do what I wish Iād learned much earlier:
Recognise burnout before it takes over.
Stop abandoning themselves.
Protect their energy.
Set boundaries.
And start putting themselves first.
Because I donāt believe you should have to completely break down before youāre allowed to change your life.
You donāt need to wait until your body says enough.
You donāt need another reminder to try harder.
And you donāt need to become better at doing everything.
You need to start choosing yourself.
Thatās what The You First Method Ā®ļø is about.
Helping exhausted women go from never enough to energised, empowered and worthy of putting themselves first.
Excited to wake up refreshed, with energyā¦
Because You First isnāt selfish. Itās burnout prevention.
