Novara Counselling and Coaching Lincoln

05/06/2026

June is Men’s Mental Health Month

This month is an important reminder that men’s mental health matters too, and that many men are still carrying things silently.

Too often, men are taught to “get on with it,” stay strong, or keep their emotions hidden. But struggling does not mean weakness. It means being human.

Opening up, asking for support, or speaking to a counsellor, can be a powerful step towards healing, understanding and change.

Mental health conversations save lives.

Men in the UK are still around three times more likely to die by su***de than women. Behind every statistic is a father, son, brother, partner, friend or colleague. This is why Men’s Mental Health Month matters, because silence can be deadly, and support can save lives.

For immediate danger, call 999 or go to A&E.

So this month, let’s encourage the men in our lives , our fathers, sons, brothers, partners, friends and colleagues, to know they do not have to face things alone.

Support is not weakness. It is strength in action.

04/06/2026

What does being a “good enough mother” really mean?

Being a good enough mother does not mean being perfect.

It does not mean always knowing the right thing to say, never getting it wrong, or endlessly putting your own needs last.

A good enough mother is human.

She may make mistakes, lose her patience, misunderstand, and quite often is carrying her own wounds. Whether that's from her own childhood, failed relationships, or simply going through her own life transitions.

But a 'good enough mother' is also willing to reflect, repair, listen, grow, and to let go when needed.

In mother–daughter relationships, it can be easy to fall into patterns of hurt, guilt, silence, resentment or misunderstanding.

Mothers may feel blamed.
Daughters may feel unheard.
Both may feel they are carrying pain they don’t fully know how to talk about.

Therapy offers a safe, supported space to gently explore these patterns , not to decide who is right or wrong, but to understand what has happened between you, what each of you needs, and whether a healthier way forward is possible.

Healing does not require perfection.

Sometimes it begins with a willingness to listen differently.

If you are a mother or daughter who longs for more understanding, softer communication, healthier boundaries, or a way to repair what feels difficult between you, mother–daughter therapy can offer a place to begin.

There are many possibilities ahead of you both, and I am trained as a Certified Mother-Daughter Coach with Mother-Daughter Coaching International; where I also had the pleasure of working for a couple of years.

I am one of four daughters and I have two adult daughters, so I also have a wealth of experience to offer you.

If this resonates with you, I offer mother–daughter therapy and coaching online and in Lincoln. You are welcome to get in touch for a gentle, no-pressure conversation.

22/05/2026

The way we communicate matters.

In relationships, it is often not the volume of our voice, but the intention behind our words that creates safety, understanding and connection.

This is especially important for couples.

Gentle words can still be powerful.

19/05/2026

Client Notification for Out of Office 26 - 29th May 2026

17/05/2026

15/05/2026

We are always changing, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

Life shifts, relationships shift, and so do we. Therapy can offer a space to understand who you are becoming, what you are carrying, and what you may be ready to release.

Change is part of being human, its constant and growth often begins with awareness.

11/05/2026

“Domestic abuse does not always look like bruises. Sometimes it looks like walking on eggshells, doubting your reality, and losing yourself piece by piece. And sometimes the bravest love story is the one where you choose yourself and walk away." These are the words of a survivor of domestic abuse. She has agreed for us to share this post in the hope it might help others.

This is her message:

“I thought love meant shrinking myself to keep someone else calm and keeping the peace at any cost.
“For a long time, I thought love meant tolerating shouting, name calling, control, and fear.
“This year, I am choosing something different. I am choosing to love myself more.
“Loving myself looks like boundaries.
“It looks like blocking numbers that hurt me.
“It looks like therapy, medication, rest, and saying no without guilt.
“It looks like teaching my children that love should feel safe, kind, and respectful.
“If you are reading this and you are in that place, you are not weak, you are not stupid, and you are not alone. You deserve real love, including from yourself.
“Here is to self-respect, healing, and starting again.”

Thank you to this survivor for her determination to help others back from where she has sadly been.

If you need help, please call us. If you are not ready to call us, there is help and support regardless of if you want to report to police. You can contact the Lincolnshire Domestic Abuse Specialist Service (link in comments) or call the freephone 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247.

10/05/2026

This coming week is Mental Health Awareness Week 🌿

Mental health matters, always, not just when we are struggling, but every day.

Sometimes taking action starts with something small: talking honestly, asking for support, resting without guilt, setting a boundary, or simply acknowledging that things feel hard.

You do not have to wait until you are at breaking point to reach out. Support can help you feel heard, understood, and gently begin to move forward.