Emma Toms - The Confident Wellness Coach

Emma Toms - The Confident Wellness Coach My Story
My own path to wellness began 30 years ago with an Autoimmune Disease diagnosis. Thank you for being here.

Emma Toms- Glasgow
The Confident Wellness Coach
IEMT Practitioner
SSP Provider
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https://g.page/r/CYpaWCu_JRGeEBE/review As an Integrated Wellness Coach, IEMT Practitioner, Reiki Master Teacher, and Certified SSP Provider, I guide clients on their journey to rebuild balance, discover resilience, and reconnect with their true nature. Through this challenging time, I discovered Reiki and Somatic practices, which opened the door to profound inner healing and the rebalancing of my body, mind, and spirit. Over the years, I've worked across various healthcare settings, building comprehensive knowledge in Wholistic Wellness. My journey took an unexpected turn when I was diagnosed with Graves' Disease following periods of chronic stress. This led to transformative life changes, including relocating from Lincolnshire to Glasgow. My Approach
I deeply believe that we all possess the innate capacity for wellness and balance. However, we often become trapped in cycles of stress, emotional discomfort, and chronic health conditions because we've lost touch with our body's wisdom. By learning to listen more deeply and reconnect with ourselves, we can unlock our natural healing potential and nurture lasting and sustainable growth. This understanding has not only transformed my own life but shapes how I support my clients. Guiding them to access their inner strength and resilience isn't just my profession—it's my passion and purpose. Witnessing the powerful changes in those who choose to work with me is an honour. Experience & Qualifications
My clients benefit from both my extensive professional training and personal healing journey. I bring over 20 years of industry experience, including:

Reiki Master Teacher certification
Integral Eye Movement Therapy (IEMT) Practitioner
Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) Certified Provider
200-Hour Kundalini Yoga Teacher Training
12-Week Root Cause Practice
50-Hour Yin and Trauma Informed Restorative Yoga
50-Hour Yoga Nidra Teacher Training
50-Hour Meditation Facilitator certification
Kundalini Yoga Level 2 (Mind and Meditation)

My Commitment
I am dedicated to supporting clients in reconnecting with their presence, purpose, and true nature. Through our work together, you'll discover tools and practices that empower your health and wellbeing journey. I look forward to supporting you on your path to wellness.

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Coming up to a year since I stood at Manchester Royal Eye Hospital talking about my Graves’ journey and Empowerment in Y...
15/09/2026

Coming up to a year since I stood at Manchester Royal Eye Hospital talking about my Graves’ journey and Empowerment in Your Diagnosis.

This was me at the height of Graves’.

Top of Ben Nevis.
About a stone underweight.
Heart racing.
Stopping every five minutes to catch my breath.

But I did it.
I always did.

Then came the flu-like symptoms, 12 hours of sleep and being completely wiped out the next day.

And this was my holiday!

Looking back, Ben Nevis wasn't the only mountain I was climbing. There was a mountain every day.

Pushing. Achieving. Pleasing. Coping. Proving.

I never felt enough. So I learned to please, to give others what I couldn't give myself and to keep going long after my body was asking me to stop.

I thought it was determination.
Some of it was.
Some of it was survival.

What we now understand about stress, the nervous system, hormones and immune function has changed how I see my own story.

Recent research involving more than 1.5 million people also found significantly higher rates of depression, anxiety and bipolar disorder in people with autoimmune conditions, including Graves’.

That doesn't mean stress causes autoimmune disease.
It means we need to stop separating the mind from the body.

My recovery wasn't just about my thyroid.

It was learning to listen.
To rest without guilt.
To understand my patterns.
To have boundaries.
To stop treating exhaustion as something to overcome.

None of this replaces medicine.
It sits alongside it.

That's what Empowerment in Your Diagnosis means to me.

Understanding the diagnosis, yes.
But also becoming curious about the whole person living inside it.

I still love achieving.
I still love a mountain.

I just don't need to destroy myself proving I can climb it anymore.

My worth was never waiting for me at the top.

14/09/2026

Not too much.
Not too little.
Just right.

I talk about this a lot, because nervous system health is not really about being calm all the time.

It is about balance.

Too much activation and we can feel wired, anxious, restless, reactive or overwhelmed.

Too little and we can feel flat, disconnected, exhausted, numb or shut down.

And somewhere in the middle is that more flexible place where we can respond to life without being completely thrown by it.

This is where the Goldilocks effect becomes such a useful way of thinking about the nervous system.

We need some stress.

We need challenge, movement, stimulation, purpose and pressure.

But we also need recovery.

Rest. Safety. Connection. Sleep. Space. Time to come back to ourselves.

The problem is often not stress itself.

It is when the balance disappears.

When there is too much demand and not enough recovery.

Too much doing and not enough being.

Too much pushing through and not enough listening.

This is a huge part of what I do.

I help people begin to understand the language of their own body.

To notice when they are moving towards overwhelm.

To recognise when they are disappearing into shutdown.

To build awareness, capacity and regulation through things like IEMT, somatic practices, nervous system education, Yoga Nidra, SSP and deeper lifestyle work.

Not to create a perfectly regulated nervous system.

That is not the goal.

The goal is a nervous system that can move.

One that can meet stress, recover, adapt and return.

Not too much.

Not too little.

Just enough.

Just right.

That is the work of The Living Body.

Join me in October. Id love to see you there
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I never thought I was anxious. I was working, exercising, planning, organising, coping and getting s**t done. If life be...
11/09/2026

I never thought I was anxious.
I was working, exercising, planning, organising, coping and getting s**t done. If life became more demanding, I became more capable.

I thought I was hardworking, independent, fiery, impatient, resilient and good under pressure. And I was.

I can also see now that some of what I thought was my personality was a body that had become good at responding to pressure.

I’ve been exploring this in this week’s Substack. We talk so much now about fight, flight, freeze and people pleasing that we can forget what these responses actually look like in ordinary life.

My flight response rarely looked like running away. It looked like working harder, exercising more, planning, cleaning or constantly thinking, right, what’s next?

Fight wasn’t always anger. Sometimes it was irritation, defensiveness or feeling the need to defend myself when what actually felt threatened was my competence, worth or identity as someone who could cope.

Freeze could be staring at a to-do list unable to decide where to start, feeling foggy while judging myself for not doing enough.

People pleasing could look like kindness. Helping, anticipating, apologising, fixing and making sure everyone else was OK.

I am a kind person and I love helping people, but I’ve also had to learn that kindness and self-abandonment can look very similar.

None of this means every busy day is flight, every argument is fight or every tired day is freeze. Our responses change with sleep, hormones, illness, relationships, uncertainty, our history and what is happening now.

I’m much more interested in awareness than labels.
What happens in me when I feel under pressure?
Do I speed up? Slow down? Become productive? Irritable? Withdraw? Start looking after everybody else?

Because before we try to regulate anything, perhaps we need to learn how to notice ourselves.

Less what’s wrong with me?
More what is happening inside me?

Join me for The Living Body. Online.
Starts October

I was 17 when my body began to react.A painful, red, light-sensitive eye, autoimmune uveitis.Over the years, more follow...
10/09/2026

I was 17 when my body began to react.
A painful, red, light-sensitive eye, autoimmune uveitis.

Over the years, more followed.
Sarcoidosis.
SVT.
Graves' disease.

I had spent years being capable.
Working. Caring. Coping. Pushing through.

I thought anxiety was part of my personality. Exhaustion was what happened when you worked hard and looked after everyone else.

I didn't understand that my body had been living with chronic stress for years.

Graves' arrived like a storm. My heart raced. My hands trembled. Sleep disappeared. I lost weight and couldn't tolerate heat. I was frightened.

Medication helped bring my thyroid under control and with lifestyle changes, eventually I reached remission.

But I still didn't feel well.

My blood tests had improved, yet my body still behaved as though danger was everywhere.

That became the beginning of a different kind of recovery.

Instead of only asking, How do I treat my illness?
Instead I asked, What has my body been carrying?

I started understanding my nervous system, chronic stress and the relationship between our experiences and our physical health.

I looked at the perfectionism.
The people-pleasing.
The responsibility.
The constant pushing through.
The beliefs and old emotional patterns I had carried for years.

Through IEMT, SSP, somatic work, Yoga Nidra, journalling, movement, rest and some significant changes in my life, something shifted.

Not through one magical intervention. Through hundreds of small choices.

I stopped fighting my body and started listening to it.

Today, I remain in remission.
I still prioritise sleep, movement, connection, boundaries and rest.

Not because I'm frightened of becoming ill again. Because this is simply how I choose to care for the body that has carried me through all of it.

My experience changed the direction of my life and eventually became the work I do today.

So I will always say accept the diagnosis. But don't let it become the limit of what you believe might still be possible for your life.

Recovery doesn't always mean cure.
Sometimes it means rebuilding trust with your body and learning to inhabit it again. Kindly

I know because I've lived it.

I haven’t posted for a while.Quite frankly, I’ve been knackered.Nothing dramatic. Life is actually good, but there has b...
10/09/2026

I haven’t posted for a while.
Quite frankly, I’ve been knackered.

Nothing dramatic. Life is actually good, but there has been a lot of normal life stuff and, if I’m paying attention properly, I’ve been a little bit stressed.

My identity is shifting again, I’ve changed my hours in my employed job, my own work is growing and changing, and I’ve been looking much more closely at my sleep and what I actually need rather than what I think I should be able to manage.

We’re moving into autumn too and I always feel that shift.

The light is changing here in Scotland, the days are getting shorter and I know that if I want to look after myself well through winter, I need to start adjusting rather than expecting myself to have exactly the same energy all year round. We are nature after all.

Honestly? The constant pressure of social media has got me down a little bit too. Post consistently. Feed the algorithm. Stay visible.

There’s something quite ridiculous about spending so much of my work talking about listening to your body while overriding my own because Instagram thinks I should be posting. So I stopped pushing it.

But while I’ve been paying more attention to myself, I’ve noticed everyone around me seems stressed too.
And quite often, they don’t think they are.

I know because for years I wouldn’t have described myself as anxious or stressed either. I worked, exercised, planned, organised, coped, managed and got s**t done. If life became more demanding, I became more capable.

I thought I was hardworking, independent, fiery, resilient and good under pressure. And I was.

Sometimes I was also living in a body that was highly activated, and I’d lived that way for so long that it just felt like me.

That’s what I’ve been exploring in The Living Body Journal recently.

Stress doesn’t always look like falling apart.
Sometimes it looks remarkably like coping.

I’m not interested in another checklist telling us we’re dysregulated.

I’m much more interested in:
How do I know when I’m stressed?
And perhaps even more importantly:
What is happening inside me, and what do I need now?

That's a question I'll be exploring in The Living Body in October.

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What Does Your Nervous System Look Like?Not on a diagram. In your actual life.Maybe it looks like waking up already thin...
06/09/2026

What Does Your Nervous System Look Like?

Not on a diagram. In your actual life.

Maybe it looks like waking up already thinking about everything you need to do.

A jaw you don't realise you're clenching.
Walking quickly when you're not actually late.
Checking your phone without knowing why.
Saying “I'm fine” when you're exhausted.
Feeling guilty when you sit down.
Overthinking a conversation that happened three days ago.
Being incredibly capable until suddenly, you're not.
Getting irritated by something tiny.
Needing everyone else to be okay before you can relax.
Or finally having time to rest and discovering you have absolutely no idea how.

I didn't recognise many of these things as signs that my body was under stress.They were just me. My habits. The way I lived.

This awareness is important. Your nervous system isn't something abstract happening somewhere inside you.

You live it.
In your pace.
Your breath.
Your thoughts.
Your relationships.
Your reactions.
Your ability to rest, connect, concentrate, play and feel present in your own life.

So don't ask How do I regulate my nervous system?
But ask What does my nervous system actually look like today?

Notice.

Just begin to learn the language of your own living body.

Because awareness comes before change and sometimes recognising what has been happening is where everything begins.

The Living Body begins this October.
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September always feels like a threshold to me.Not quite a new beginning.Not quite the end of something either.A moment w...
05/09/2026

September always feels like a threshold to me.
Not quite a new beginning.
Not quite the end of something either.

A moment where you become a little more aware of what you're carrying.

We talk about change as though we need to become someone completely different.

A new routine, mindset, a better version of ourselves.

But I'm less interested in reinvention.
And more interested in choice.

What am I taking with me?
What has served me beautifully?
What am I ready to put down?

Not everything we carry is bad.

My determination has carried me through some enormous things.

My independence has helped me rebuild.

My ability to work hard has created a life and a business I care deeply about.

I don't need to get rid of those parts of myself, but I also don't need them running everything.

So much of this work happens in that tiny space between what we feel and what we automatically do next.

The urge to say yes.
The need to fix.
The familiar thought.

But instead of following it you notice.
Inside it is choice.

This is why awareness comes before regulation in The Living Body.

Before we start adding tools, we learn to recognise our own body.

Stress. Sensation. Patterns. Emotional imprints. The identities we've built around coping.

Not so we can throw everything away and start again.
But so we can decide what still belongs.

Maybe this Autumn is about carrying forward what you love and putting down what you've carried for far too long.

The Living Body begins this October.
Six weeks of learning to understand, listen to and work with the body you're living in.

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So much of what we call personality is what we have practiced for a very long time.The way we react when someone is disa...
04/09/2026

So much of what we call personality is what we have practiced for a very long time.

The way we react when someone is disappointed in us.

The apology that leaves our mouth before we've even decided whether we've done anything wrong.

The yes when we mean no.

The need to explain ourselves.

The shrinking.

The voice inside that says don't be difficult, don't get it wrong, don't let anyone down.

Eventually these responses become so familiar that we stop experiencing them as responses at all.

We experience them as us.

I'm an anxious person.
I'm a people pleaser.
I'm too sensitive.
I'm not confident.
I'm just someone who has to work hard.

But this is where awareness becomes incredibly powerful.

Because there is a moment, sometimes only small, between what happens and what we do next.

And when we've spent years living quickly, reacting quickly, overriding quickly, we can miss it completely.

The body has already braced.
The thought has already arrived.
The old story is already running.
And off we go down the familiar road.
Again.

The work isn't to judge that response. It makes sense that the nervous system reaches for what it knows.

The work is learning to notice it happening.

The jaw.
The belly.
The breath.
The thought.
The urge to fix, defend, disappear, perform or please.

And with enough awareness, we begin to find that tiny gap.

A little more space between stimulus and response.

A moment in which we can ask
Is this who I am now?
Or is this something I learned to do?

Identity can feel fixed. But something learned leaves room for something new to be learned. Slowly.

In the ordinary moments of our lives.

Notice.
Pause.
Choose again.
And again.

Until the new response becomes familiar too.
This is one of the deeper layers of The Living Body.

Not just learning how to regulate a nervous system, but understanding the person we learned to become inside it.

And discovering there may be more choice there than we realised.

Join me in October for The Living Body.
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I’m Emma Emma Toms - The Confident Wellness Coach I’m an Integrated Wellness Coach, IEMT Practitioner and Safe and Soun...
04/09/2026

I’m Emma
Emma Toms - The Confident Wellness Coach

I’m an Integrated Wellness Coach, IEMT Practitioner and Safe and Sound Protocol Provider based in Glasgow, and I work with people who are struggling with stress, anxiety, burnout, emotional overwhelm and that feeling of knowing something needs to change, but not quite knowing where to begin.

A lot of the people who come to me have already tried a lot.

They understand themselves. They’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, tried therapy, meditation, yoga, mindset work, supplements, exercise, better routines…

And yet their body is still telling a different story.

They’re exhausted but can’t properly rest.
They overthink everything.
They’re more reactive than they used to be.
They push through until they can’t.
Their sleep, digestion, hormones or health have changed.
They know what they should be doing, but somehow can’t seem to make it stick.

This is where my work is a little different.

I work with the mind and the body, because we don’t experience life from the neck up.

Stress is physiological as well as psychological, and when we’ve spent years adapting, coping, caring for everyone else, working, raising families, navigating illness, relationships, loss, hormonal changes and simply getting on with life, those adaptations can become so familiar that we start thinking they’re our personality.

I’m just an anxious person.

I’ve always been like this.

I’m terrible at resting.

I just have to get on with things.

Sometimes what we call personality is a pattern the body learned a very long time ago.

Alongside my 1:1 work in Glasgow and online, this October I’m bringing much of what I’ve learned through my professional training, my work with clients and my own lived experience into a new six-week online course:

The Living Body.

It’s about understanding the body you are actually living in.

We’ll explore stress and capacity, body awareness and interoception, the nervous system, safety and regulation, identity and old emotional imprints, rest and recovery, and finally how we bring all of that together so change becomes something we can actually live rather than another thing we have to try harder at.

There will be education, reflection and simple embodied practices, with a workbook and guided resources to help you continue the work between sessions.

It isn't a six-week promise to fix your life.

It is an invitation to understand yourself differently.

To become curious about what your body has been carrying, what it has learned, what it might no longer need and what becomes possible when we stop fighting ourselves and start listening.

The first cohort begins October 2026 and is £195, with lifetime access to the course resources. This first cohort will never be offered at this price again.

I also offer 1:1 IEMT, nervous system and integrated wellness sessions in Glasgow and online, including longer-term support for people who want to work more deeply.

If any of this sounds familiar, feel free to message me. I’m always happy to have a conversation about whether the course or 1:1 work might be right for you.

Emma Toms — The Confident Wellness Coach
Integrated Wellness Coach | IEMT Practitioner | SSP Provider
Glasgow & Online

www.emmatoms.com

https://www.emmatoms.com/service-page/the-living-body?referral=service_list_widget

Module Three of my COSCA counselling training. Done. Ten weeks of psychodynamic therapy, CBT, the person-centred approac...
03/09/2026

Module Three of my COSCA counselling training. Done.

Ten weeks of psychodynamic therapy, CBT, the person-centred approach, attachment, human development, patterns, relationships and inevitably, ourselves.

I don't think you can study why human beings become who they become without turning the mirror towards yourself.

And there has been a lot of that. Maybe that's why I took the course on.

Reflection. Self-evaluation. Looking backwards. Looking underneath. Asking why.

In my 50s I know now that quick fixes never worked for me.

The things that changed me were slower.

Understanding my patterns. Learning where they began. Recognising beliefs I never consciously chose. Learning to listen to my body. Building self-trust. Learning to feel rather than fix.

Slowly understanding that self-awareness isn't about endlessly analysing ourselves.

It is about knowing ourselves well enough to have choice.
To recognise the old road before automatically walking down it again. To notice when the past is quietly reaching into the present. Eventually, to become somewhere safe for ourselves to land.

My final reflective presentation brought another piece of that. The words reflected back to me by this beautiful group of women:

“I value learning from you.”
“Beautiful voice.”
“Poetic and inspiring words.”

And the one that really landed… "BIG HEART.”

Maybe part of knowing ourselves is learning to receive the good too. Not brushing it away. Not shrinking from it. Not immediately explaining why it isn't really true. Just letting it land.

Healing isn't just about uncovering what we've buried. It's also about uncovering the beautiful parts of ourselves we haven't quite known how to believe.

So I finish these ten weeks grateful.

For the theory. For the mirrors. For the difficult bits. For the laughter. For these wonderful women. And for the privilege of continuing to learn about what it means to be human.

A little wiser. A little softer. A little more myself.

Big heart and all.

And absolutely bloody knackered!

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