Lucy Fernandez - Life Coach

05/05/2022

YOU ARE WHAT YOU DO, NOT WHAT YOU SAY YOU'LL DO.​​​​​​​​
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How many times have you told someone what you are intending to do? Shared your aspirations and your plans? They respond with positive remarks and admiration for your ambitions. ​​​​​​​​
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And then ...... it just doesn't happen.​​​​​​​​
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You are too busy. Or you lose your nerve. Or work gets in the way. And then you feel disappointed in yourself and when you run into the person you told - you are embarrassed and humiliated.​​​​​​​​
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It takes action to make change and it take positive energy to get started. If you have been brave enough to share your ambitions with someone, be strong enough to get started!​​​​​​​​
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Words are worthless without action. And you are worth so much more than that. Work out what is stopping you and work around it. Push through. Show some grit. You are worth it!​​​​​​​​
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03/05/2022

01/05/2022

WE ARE ALL A LITTLE BROKEN. BUT LAST TIME i CHECKED, BROKEN CRAYONS SILL COLOUR THE SAME. Trent Sheldon​​​​​​​​
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Living, striving for perfect in pointless. None of us are perfect and expecting others to be perfect is unreasonable.​​​​​​​​
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Accepting we all have a history, we all have different values and beliefs, and we are all a little broken is far more fair. When our expectations of ourselves and others are 'real', we are more tolerant of weakness and failing to achieve 100% all the time. In doing so, we can exhibit kindness and acceptance, knowing life happens and just because someone isn't perfect, it doesn't mean they can't be of value.​​​​​​​​
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29/04/2022

STUFF I CAN CONTROL:​​​​​​​​
- How I react​​​​​​​​
- Where I spend my energy​​​​​​​​
- My attitude​​​​​​​​
- The way I speak to myself​​​​​​​​
- The way I speak to others​​​​​​​​
- How I treat myself​​​​​​​​
- How I treat others​​​​​​​​
- The decisions I make​​​​​​​​
- Who I let in​​​​​​​​
- When to let go​​​​​​​​
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27/04/2022

Marriage is hard​​​​​​​​
Divorce is hard​​​​​​​​
Choose your hard​​​​​​​​
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Obesity is hard​​​​​​​​
Fit is hard​​​​​​​​
Choose your hard​​​​​​​​
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Being in debt is hard​​​​​​​​
Being financially disciplined is hard​​​​​​​​
Choose your hard​​​​​​​​
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Communication is hard​​​​​​​​
Not communicating is hard​​​​​​​​
Choose your hard​​​​​​​​
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Life will never be easy.​​​​​​​​
It will always be hard​​​​​​​​
But we can choose our hard​​​​​​​​
Choose wisely​​​​​​​​
The Minds Journal​​​​​​​​
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Now, this is a tough quote to take in. I know that for some, one or more of these situations may not feel like it is a choice. But for the majority this is a bit of honest truth.​​​​​​​​
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When I first read it, I pondered whether it fits with my ethos of positivity and encouragement. But I guess it is how you choose to look at it. How you choose to frame it.​​​​​​​​
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What it tells us is in most cases we have a choice. We are hard wired to move away from pain and towards pleasure. That might seem simple, but we are complex creatures and definitely creatures of habit. It might make sense to eat less and lose weight, but if food is your comfort, you might stick with it, rather than experience hunger and the loss of your emotional blanket.​​​​​​​​
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Sometimes our choices are really tough. Just do your very best to do the best by you. You deserve it. x​​​​​​​​
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25/04/2022

CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES WISELY BECAUSE IF YOU FIGHT THEM ALL YOU'LL BE TOO TIRED TO WIN THE REALLY IMPORTANT ONES​​​​​​​​
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A prime example of this is in parenting. Teenagers to be precise. My experience of raising four children on my own has taught me to pick my battles. If you go at them constantly they stop listening. If you constantly pick on them, they see it all with the same bland noise. If you let the insignificant stuff go, and use your energy to focus on things that matter - you'll get results.​​​​​​​​
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Life is too short be in battle mode all the time. Some of that stuff that ni**les at you is not important. Sometimes you just need to take a breath and let it go. It takes practice. It might be helpful to imagine an invisible refuse back and drop the ni**le in there and tie a knot in the top.​​​​​​​​
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Focus on what matters. Preserve your energy for constructive conversations, rational thinking and compromise, when it is of value. ​​​​​​​​
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23/04/2022

FALL SEVEN TIMES, STAND UP EIGHT​​​​​​​​
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Life is not easy. Sometimes it feels like you keep getting knocked down, over and over again. And you don't feel like getting up and brushing yourself off again.​​​​​​​​
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I had a tough time a few years ago. I lost my home and had to start again with four kids. I had to do my 'return to practice' as a midwife on nights so that I could care for them during the day. A lot of friends and family stepped away and left me to it. It was a really tough time. Every time I thought I was progressing in creating a safe, warm, secure home and life, I got more bills, more hassles. It felt endless.​​​​​​​​
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Then I came up with this analogy. I had a sh*t cloud dumping on me every time something went wrong. Initially it felt like this cloud was weighing down on me every minute of every day, and I never got a break. This dark cloud followed me everywhere and just kept dumping on me.​​​​​​​​
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But I keep focused on my plan. I worked really hard. I didn't give up. The cloud began to move away for a while before returning to bother me again. Eventually the cloud sat on the horizon and only once in a blue moon came to dump on me. I think that is normality for most of us. Sh*t happens once in a while.​​​​​​​​
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I had absolutely know idea that I was as resilient and strong as I proved to be. I am nothing special. Just a determined woman, prepared to do whatever it takes to create the future I want.​​​​​​​​
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You have it in you too. ​​​​​​​​
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21/04/2022

THINGS TO REMEMBER:​​​​​​​​
- you don't have to be perfect​​​​​​​​
- having a bad day is OK​​​​​​​​
- small steps are also progress​​​​​​​​
- asking for help is strength​​​​​​​​
- people love and appreciate you​​​​​​​​
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