16/10/2025
I very rarely post vulnerable content here, but I feel this is an important message to share, hoping it helps others who can relate. ❤️
As a personal trainer (PT) over the years, I’ve often heard people say things like, “I want to look like you” and “You make everything look easy.” The reality is that it’s easier for me to maintain relative consistency with my training because I have the constant accountability of doing it for a career. This isn’t the case for others who don’t do it as a career, as they have to juggle life’s responsibilities. For example, some people work all hours to provide for their families, leaving them exhausted and understandably struggling to motivate themselves to go to the gym after a long, hard shift. So, when you compare yourself to someone else, remember they may not be carrying the same life pressures as you.
Furthermore, I want to emphasise that even as a PT, I struggle a lot. I may look like I’m doing great, but like a lot of people I only share a small percentage of my journey that I want you to see. However, I’m going to share more of what you don’t see now
My journey, like everyone else’s, isn’t straightforward; it’s full of ups and downs. One of my more recent example’s would be that I’ve been struggling mentally due to feeling like I’ve lost my sense of purpose in life. I feel like I’m not at the stage of life that I should be at compared to others. Most of my friends and family are in relationships, have kids, own houses, are driving, and excelling in their careers. I’ve been very self-critical, thinking I might never find someone because I’m not good enough, that I must be a bad person because I didn’t get that promotion I wanted, and feeling isolated and alone because I don’t feel like I fit in. What didn’t help was that with my ADHD, I feel things extremely, and when I’m feeling low, all my body wants to do is release dopamine to make me feel happier. In those moments, I seek short-term fixes like sweets and chocolate, which, as we know, isn’t the healthiest, but in the moment, all I want to do is feel like I’m not drowning in emotions. The point I’m trying to make is that even with all the knowledge to make informed decisions, I still make the wrong choices sometimes, and that’s because some things aren’t as straightforward as simply choosing not to make those bad choices. In addition, this all stemmed from the fact I compared my journey to everyone’s else’s around me, which you should never do.
Overall, I hope you understand that everyone is different and has their own barriers along their journeys. Concentrate on your journey and take the path that’s right for you, not the path you think someone else you’re comparing yourself to is on. ❤️ Most importantly, don’t beat yourself up over every bad decision because you’re only human. ❤️
