24/05/2026
I've just finished another mammoth weekend on the sports massage game. My body is tired, my heart is full knowing that I gave you my all, but my mind is looping with recurring themes of the stories many of you (particularly women) have shared with me.
Stories of co-parents aggressively refusing to do the bare minimum.
Stories of partners framing your boundaries as harmful after you finally called out their behaviour.
Stories of partners who don't stand up for you when their family are on the rampage.
All weekend I found myself reminding people that emotional boundaries are healthy, projected aggression is not emotional maturity, and that our triggers are ours to understand and manage without weaponising them against others.
My triggers are my responsibility.
Your triggers are your responsibility.
Their triggers are their responsibility.
If you find yourself on the receiving end of emotional projection, neglect of responsibility, or reactive hostility, it isn't your job to fix the person attacking, neglecting or manipulating you, especially when they won't take responsibility themselves.
But you are always allowed to prioritise your peace, protect your space, and safeguard your wellbeing.