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Bigi Luetchford | Intentional Parenting Coach
Helping intentional parents bridge the gap between theory and real family life
👨‍👦Mum of neurodivergent child
🏳️‍🌈 LGBTQ+
📖 Trauma-informed
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11/12/2025

Part 2 – Here’s the heart of it.
As parents, we’re responsible for our feelings. Our children aren’t.
We’re responsible for our needs. Our children aren’t.

They look to us for grounding, for guidance, for help making sense of their world.

If we expect them to hold our emotions or meet our needs, we’re asking them to do something they’re not built for. It pulls them into a role that isn’t theirs.

When we take ownership of what’s ours, something shifts.
Children get to stay children.
And we get the clarity we need to respond in ways that feel more aligned.

If you want support with this in your family, get in touch!

11/12/2025

Part 1 – Many of us say things like I wish he’d be quiet or she’s making me furious without thinking about what’s underneath.
There’s nothing wrong with feeling that way. But this kind of language can slip into how we speak to our children, and suddenly I need some quiet turns into you’re too noisy.

What’s usually happening is that we’re naming our need through their behaviour.
A need for calm. A need for space. A need for order.
Those needs are valid. They’re just not our children’s to carry.

This is an invitation to pause and notice the difference.
When we separate the child from the need, things often become much clearer.

If you want support with this in your family, get in touch!

26/11/2025

Resting at Christmas? or anytime for that matter? Chance should be a fine thing! I hear you say...

Well...it can be done, if we just simplify things a little!

Join the BG Parenting club by signing up to the newsletter and reading my latest blog on what rest can look like when you're a busy parent.

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It's out on 3 December, so subscribe now so you don’t miss out!
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We all have those moments in parenting when we freeze, doubt ourselves, or slip into old habits without meaning to.And t...
20/11/2025

We all have those moments in parenting when we freeze, doubt ourselves, or slip into old habits without meaning to.
And then, one day, something shifts.

A client recently told me they now pause before reacting because they can hear the questions we explored together.
And honestly? I love that so much.
Because that pause isn’t about me.
It’s about them stepping into their own clarity.

That’s the whole point of intentional parenting.
Not to follow someone else’s script, but to notice what’s going on inside you, choose connection over autopilot, and trust the voice you’re growing within yourself.

If any part of you longs to parent with more confidence and less second-guessing, this carousel is for you.

Have you ever caught yourself pausing before reacting? I’d love to hear what that moment felt like for you.









13/11/2025

A lot of the stress we feel as parents comes from the stories we’ve inherited about how children should behave.

Once a month I unpack one of these myths in my Parenting Myth of the Month newsletter and offer a clearer, more realistic way forward.

This month is all about the idea that "my child should know by now".

If you want gentler, more grounded insights in your inbox, comment MYTH to sign up for the next issue!

05/11/2025

We’re told it takes a village to raise a child.
But for many parents, the “village” they’re offered looks like NCT groups, baby classes, and school gates — people in the same situation, but not always the people who can help.

Validation is comforting, but it’s not the same as real support.

Sometimes the care you need comes from unexpected places:

- a friend who reminds you who you are outside of parenting,
- a neighbour who brings your bin in,
- a relative who listens without judging,
- anyone who helps life feel a little lighter.

The real village isn’t always made up of people like you.

It’s made up of people who care — about you, about the world around them, about making life a bit easier for someone else.

That’s what collective care looks like.
And that’s what families really need.

💬 Who’s in your village?










That moment when your teen pushes past the agreed screen time, and you feel yourself snap – even though you swore you’d ...
17/09/2025

That moment when your teen pushes past the agreed screen time, and you feel yourself snap – even though you swore you’d stay calm this time.

It’s not because you don’t care.
It’s not because you’re failing.
It’s because something deeper got stirred.

Parenting touches the most vulnerable parts of us:
🌀 Old patterns
🧠 Beliefs we didn’t even know we had
⚡️ Nervous system responses we don’t consciously choose

That gap between your values and your reactions?
It’s not a flaw – it’s a flag. Something to be curious about.

📗 Read the full post: “You know the theory – so why does it still feel so hard?”
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If you wouldn’t say it to your gran…why say it to your child?Children aren’t adults in training.They are people — with t...
02/09/2025

If you wouldn’t say it to your gran…

why say it to your child?

Children aren’t adults in training.

They are people — with thoughts, feelings, and boundaries that deserve respect.

Rewording isn’t about sugar-coating.
It’s about connection.

It’s how we teach consent, build trust, and model communication they’ll carry for life.

Because every “just give them a hug” moment chips away at their sense of agency.

And every “would you like to?” helps restore it.

Small language shifts = big impact.

Let’s crowdsource better scripts:

What’s one phrase you’ve swapped — or wish more adults would rethink?

Comment below and let’s rewrite the way we speak to kids, together.






You don’t need to be a “perfect parent.”You need support that makes sense for your values—and your family.That’s why I d...
19/08/2025

You don’t need to be a “perfect parent.”

You need support that makes sense for your values—and your family.

That’s why I do this work.

I’ve been the parent crying in the loo.

The one saying sorry for the fifth time.

The one Googling “how to stay calm when everything’s hard.”

I’m Bigi—an intentional parenting coach for families who don’t fit the mould. 

Q***r. Neurodivergent. Always learning.

And I’m glad you’re here.

Parenting isn’t one-size-fits-all. Your support shouldn’t be either.

DM me “HELLO” and I’ll send over one of my favourite free tools to help you move from chaos to connection—without needing to be someone you’re not. 





If setting boundaries brings up guilt, it makes sense.Many of us were taught that keeping the peace was more important t...
05/08/2025

If setting boundaries brings up guilt, it makes sense.

Many of us were taught that keeping the peace was more important than telling the truth.

But boundaries aren’t about pushing people away.

They’re about staying close to yourself while staying in connection with others.

You’re allowed to say:
– “That doesn’t work for me.”
– “I need a bit of space.”
– “I’m not ready for that conversation.”

Without guilt.
Without over-explaining.
Without losing your warmth.

If you’re learning to set boundaries that feel aligned and respectful — even in tough moments — DM me “Boundaries”, and I’ll send you my free workshop on Setting Boundaries That Stick.

You don’t have to do it perfectly.
Just in a way that feels true to you.







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